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 Hi, This is the first time I have ever posted anything in my life. I am typically an insanely private person, but I’m at such a low point in my life I can’t help but reach out. I’ve been on an off of this website for a few years now and have gained some great insight, but haven’t activity participated in any of the discussions. I have certainly related with so many of the postings.

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First, let me say, I am committed to my marriage and do not want to break up my family.  But ADD is making my life hell.  I have almost completely shut down towards my husband and just can't seem to help it.  He is trying and honestly has no idea how negatively his ADD affects me.  Or maybe he has head knowledge but it doesn't register enough for him to make any changes.  I know that my reactions to his ADD are just as bad as his inability to pay attention to me.  I am just at my wits end and so tired of being unhappy.  I have talked, cried, explained till I have nothing left.  He hears me

Hi, I am wrecked, exhausted, overworked and beyond coping with organising my husband's life, picking up the unfinished pieces and dealing with debts, bills, children's needs and running my own business and the house. I think my husband may be ADHD.. just from reading about the symptoms and the effect on our marriage and my own life. I am a fixer, a strong and very capable organiser,.. so I've managed well to deal with 14 years with his maverick ways, multiple projects, debts, denials of consequences of actions, lack of coherent plans, unfinished business, disorganised paperwork/files etc.

This song speaks to me

http://youtu.be/TA_wJohSuPc or http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NnIzbukJOHQ

I recognize that I am now full-on using this site as a therapeutic tool. Apologies to George for using these boards as a personal journal. As I've said elsewhere something about a journal is just incredibly annoying to me. The concept of writing things down for no audience but myself just seems ridiculous. Perhaps I love the tenor of my own prose, but only if it is available for public viewing. Vanity.

Here is my frustration for today:

I struggled with anorexia and bulimia from age 19 to about 30.  15 years of struggle.  "No quick fix."  was what I heard from psychiatrists/counselors.   My spouse used to come with me to some of my counseling.  The focus was me:  my issues; how I coped with emotional pain through the eating disorder behavior; how difficult it was for  my spouse to be hopeless in 'making' me eat differently. 

I'm beyond frustrated tonight.  For many years I've tried to quietly get the keys when leaving a restaurant when my husband has been drinking.  I've tried to hide it from my child.  My spouse often argues & minimizes what he's had to drink.  We had a big blowout on the same topic 4 yrs ago.  I've been very clear that I don't want him drinking while driving or driving us home after several mixed drinks or beers -  especially not with our son in the vehicle. It's silly when I'm sober to take the risk.

My husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for 5.  We have a 5 year old son with autism and have an 8 month old daughter.  Life with my husband has had many wonderful moments and I find myself loving him time and time again.  He holds a job and has held a job our whole relationship and I know statistically he is an anomaly.  I should also mention that in the last two years he has begun the meds dance with anti-depressents and stimulants.  He also suffers from OCD, tourettes, and of course ADHD.

Hello,

I am new to this forum. My husband and I are self-employed. We have been married for 15 years and have been working together for about 16 years. We have so many difficulties working together, largely due to his ADHD issues (and my unproductive coping mechanisms...) I'd like to hear from others who are also dealing with this.

Thank you