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I'm reading the Dance of Anger book and trying to do some of the work, but I'm so confused. She has you "begin to observe your characteristic style of managing anger," and I'm all over the map with my husband. 

I overfunction with my family of origin: I have advice for everyone and move in too quickly to rescue, take over and fix, I pretend I don't have problems and am the expert. I'm the eldest daughter with two younger brothers. 

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, one month ago. In the past we have broken up before based on his behavior. Basically it took breaking up for him to hear me even though I had been saying that something bothered me every day for a year. But this was how we did it. i would talk he would say he understands and then...wait for it...yes, it would happen again the very next week or day even. Our last break up was fairly long. He snores loud enough that someone across the house with their door shut and TV was up all night. He was given a C0Pap machine but refused to put it on.

I'm sure this has been discussed before, but I'm wondering if anyone has favorite books or websites that help with ADD organization. I'm not trying to organize my DH, but from what I've read so far, I think I would really benefit from a more ADD-centric approach to organization and I know my kids would, too. My executive function skills are not very functional. :) I struggle with unfinished projects, piles of papers, folded but not put away laundry, procrastination, lateness, etc., etc., etc. My kids can't keep their rooms clean to save their lives.

My wife and I have been having struggles around yelling, and perceptions about yelling. When she is angry or frustrated, she often responds by yelling. When I ask her not to yell, she often says "I'm NOT yelling!" Or she responds even more loudly "THAT wasn't yelling. THIS is yelling?" Or she replies sarcastically "Oh, give me a break." When she responds in any of those usual ways, I feel belittled and dismissed, which then gets ME angry, and things just escalate. I've been trying to get her to see that what doesn't feel like yelling to her, DOES feel like yelling to me.

I know this is similar to other posts but I would still love some feedback from wiser married women who have found more success in managing their lives with ADHD

I posted on here before , but I'm still struggling.

I had a stupid emotional/semi physical affair with a really dbag type of guy who I had crush on at the beginning of dec12. 

Since that time my husband has done a 180 . He is forgiving and the person I have always dreamed about. He treats me amazing, he is very affectionate and loving, doesn't complain loves to help me . 

I have severe ADHD.   I am the mother of 3 children. 2 out of the 3 have ADHD. My oldest is 19 and disabled. He has ADHD/Bipolar/Developmental delay/Learning disabled/ODD. My daughter does not have anything.  My youngest is 8 with just ADHD.  I need help. Im trying my best to manage mine with meds, therapy, coaching. I am responsible for helping manage my sons. So I have 3 people I am trying to help manage. MY problem is my husband. Even though he knows my difficulties, He refuses to help or be of support in any way. I am responsible for everything!

Hi,

This seminar is helping us a lot as long as my ADHD spouse takes the prescribed ADHD meds. When the meds are skipped, this is when the coursework is most relevant and when my spouse is least likely to be open to it. The catch 22s of ADHD drive me up a wall.... the person who is least likely to remember to take meds is the one who most needs to take them. 

I am trying not to parent and to simply say, "When you don't take your meds, this is what it's like for me." 

Lots of anger; thankful for meds.

Does this happen to anyone? Advice?

I am the non-ADHD spouse.