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Hello, all.  

The last time I posted an update, I said I was doing pretty well.  And I was.  I had been doing pretty well for awhile, despite any real change in our marriage and definitely no change in his adhd management.  Plus the adhd kids we have here add another layer of adhd stuff.  But I was doing alright, for quite awhile.  I thought I had figured some things out, solved some things.  Turns out - no.  I am TIRED of the struggle.  Soooo sick of it.  But I am not leaving, so neither is the struggle.    

are ADHD and narcissism connected?

I am wondering how many other spouses of ADHD partners experience problems in sex stemming from ADHD. It has been a revelation to me that my problems with my husband are connected to this. It seems he is either hyper focusing, or his attention wanders from me. He seems to get very consumed with his own sensations, and the connection to me drops. This is similar to what happens often in daily life. He is unaware that the connection has dropped in all cases. During sex this is particularly weird for me. I felt he was being unloving and selfish.

The subject of abuse has come up repeatedly on the forum lately.

I am taught to draw a sharp line at physical violence. That is unacceptable.

The thing is, about other ways of causing pain, I'm not certain how to differ abuse from non-abuse. For instance, a non-ADHD partner keeping a cautious distance, letting distaste show, not being in love, seems to be devastating to the partner's self-esteem and even health. Voicing needs, with increasing tone of voice over time when needs are never met, causes conflict and deep-felt chronic stress in the ADHD partner. Is that abuse?

After 10 years and 2 kids I'm dx ADHD. Wife and the kids left last year, I'm on meds now and things are better, but she still doesn't trust me. It's been 8 months since I've been on the right meds.Not sure where to go from here.

As I write this I'm yet again in a scenario that has been the most common theme and reoccurring argument my husband and I have had for years. 

Hello Everyone. I have a dear friend with ADHD whom I see almost every day walking our dogs. I'm the non-ADHD person. I'm trying to understand how ADHD affects her communication and also some behaviors. She is a dear friend but sometimes I feel exhausted after spending time with her and trying to figure out what her point is. Sometimes what she says or does feels rude but I don't think that is her intention. So here are some questions I have. Feel free to focus on one or two or as many as you want. I value your sharing what you know. 

Hi. I (30M, diagnosed ADHD) and my girlfriend (36F) have had multiple arguments over this and I want to see if I’m being unreasonable. For background, my girlfriend and I have very different "social battery" levels, with her almost constantly having plans and me wanting a lot of alone time. We frequently butt heads regarding this and I usually end up having to go to every event unless I'm ill (which does happen frequently - I also get migraines once or twice a week).

Hello.

Ive posted here a few times and this community helped me. 

Hi everyone, I am at my wit's end.  After umpteen conversations with my ADHD-diagnosed husband about how the marriage isn't working and I need to move on, I finally had to tell him that I just don't feel love for him anymore.  I never wanted to actually have to say this as this causes so much hurt, but things are not moving towards a point where we can separate.  We have had so many arguments - him screaming and shouting at me - with the last straw being him punching 4 holes in a wardrobe door a few weeks' ago.  I can't take the damage to property as well as everything else!  After another