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My husband's default excuse or argument is always that he "forgot." 
 

It is always he couldn't do the dishes because he always forgets. He didn't do laundry because he forgot. He didn't call the school to let them know one of the kids was home sick because he forgot. he wasn't ready on time to go because he forgot. 
 

I'm a 57 yr old man diagnosed w ADHD in my forties. I've been married 14 years and we have a 12 yr old daughter. This is the first marriage for both of us. In the beginning, our vast differences (her type A personality and my left brain ADHD) were complimentary and sometimes funny. We even worked together for a few years at my creative agency. But after about 5 years, as the household and familial challenges increased, our differences began to divide us.

Is it normal to experience ups and downs in terms of ADHD symptoms?

My husband is in denial but almost certainly has ADHD, but there are periods of time, especially after an especially big screw up but, also just in general, where he exhibits better control (or is it just masking?) of his symptoms.

My husband and I have been married for 13 years and we have 2 kids (ages 11 and 3). My husband was diagnosed with ADHD last summer at the age of 36. He was prescribed medication which he took for about 6 months, then abruptly stopped taking it and said he didn't like the way it made him feel. His screen usage has always been a major issue throughout our relationship. When we first met it was video games. He would play every day for hours and hours.

This forum has helped me maintain my sanity for years! I haven't posted in years, but I have to vent. Does anyone else experience this? A simple conversation seems to always end in a fight and here's an example:

Hello,

I'm so tired. Tired of having the same arguments, tired of the loneliness, tired of always being the bad guy. Husband is diagnosed and usually takes medication. We've been together for 10 years, lived together for 7, married for 5. We have 6 kids, 3 his, 3 mine. My oldest is out of the house, my middle has Down syndrome, youngest is graduating this year. His oldest is out of the house (but has ADD), his middle has cut him off and lives with his mom full-time, his youngest is 16. Odds were stacked against us. I thought our love was strong enough to persevere. I should have known better.

I wanted other non-ADHD partner views on whether their mental health has been significantly impacted by their ADHD partner?

This afternoon, I picked up my ADHD Effect on Marriage book again and read a bit. It is always so hard to read this book because my ADD husband refuses to seek any form of treatment, but says "it's just his personality". I married him and so I just need to deal with who he is. Plain and simple. It's very defeating. And the truth is....I spend every spare moment of my life trying to escape reality. I can't sleep at night. I'm depressed. I'm angry. I am very very isolated and alone in this. And I have 2 young children.