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Can anyone relate to this?  I feel as though I am living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!!  Younger folks might know what that term means, and of course, if you know the story, I am being a bit extreme since my ADHD husband is not a homicidal maniac as was Mr. Hyde.  But my point is that it is like I wake up to a different person every morning.  One morning he will be mild mannered and sweet and the next morning, or sometimes by the afternoon he is sullen, angry and hostile.

Does anyone have any tips on how to keep a home functional when the ADD partner is home. All his home duties are is to maintain the yard and clean up his mess after him. Too much to ask for i think.

* I would complain about the yard and he would decide he would start mowing the lawn at 9pm (at night) mind you he would not complete this and leave it in a worser state than it already was and un completed. We are renting and i dont want to loose our home cause part of the agreement was to have the yard maintained

* Doors/cupboards constantly left open

I feel completely bashed verbally after last night.  I really tried to listen and hear without becoming defensive when my ADHD husband began to recount all of my failures of the past year.  I in fact did not defend myself, which may be why I feel so beat up this morning.  I apologized - yet again - for ways that my behavior had been emasculating in the past year.  He has only been actually diagnosed for about six months - we have been married for nearly 30 years.  I tried to explain as best I could that we could not just break patterns that had gone on between us 30 years overnight - that i

I feel silly posting this, as I am a mental health counselor. I feel like I should know a resource.

I recently bought Melissa's book and read about this site. I found the book out of desperation, searching on the web. Thank goodness is all I can say! It could save my marriage, but I am scared it may be too late. It is very hard for me to type right now, I can't stop the tears. I guess I just wanted to ask if anyone else felt this way when they first came to this site? Years and years of struggle and to think it was ADHD! My husband was diagnosed almost 2 years ago, when my son was. We have been married 19 years and have 3 teenagers.

Just when I thought things were going great, the proverbial shit hits the fan. We have been getting along really well and I started to let down my guard and feel loved by my husband. Big mistake.

I feel as though my life falls apart everytime my partner is home. Is it fair to say that all i wanted was a normal home? One that consisted of not yelling, breaking things and showing your children that you can be a happy family. Everything seems to be my fault and even when he gets agressive he can become very violent. But again if i were to say exactly what happened he denies it even happened that way, just says that it was my fault i slipped and he never done this. How do you cope?

I am the non-ADHD partner. We moved to Tn in May 2010 and I am finding myself struggling with isolation. I work from home and due the various day to day struggles of having both a spouse and daughter with ADHD just do not have a support group for myself. I am thinking that my best support would be in finding others in relationships with ADHD persons. I would love to try to form a local group to get together in the Rutherford County/Murfreesboro area but am not quite sure as this area seems to be "hush-hush" on this topic.

So, I have no idea if posting this will help at all.  But I need to tell someone and hopefully someone who understands.  

Where to start I am not sure but, here I go.    I am lost, confused, anger, depressed, scared and yet not ready to give up.  

OK, all you nonworriers, give me your best tips!  My older daughter is in trouble at college, a second time that she has messed up and alcohol has been involved.  I will leave out the gory (actually, kind of funny and pathetic) details.  Anyway, how do I, nonADHD parent and spouse, slow down my heart; keep my stomach from roiling; and generally calm my mind to a reasonable extent until Monday, when dear daughter meets with the school's conduct officer?  I have given my daughter good advice, I think, about how to respond:  get help for her alcohol problem!  But I have a feeling that in a few