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I have been married for 13 years and found out a few years ago I had ADHD.  It all made since, the trouble in school, making the wrong decisions, trouble with financial reports etc.  I have ruined my marriage, alienated my wife, kids and her family.  Im loosing my wife and son in a current divorce.  Work is fine and starting to really improve.  My medication does not seem to work for long, maybe a few hours.  But I have made the choices that got me here.  How much of that can be ADHD?  I fell like its a copout to blame the ADHD.  I could see this all coming but  its like it was a hologram a

I have been married for 42 years and probably have ADD.  I read the book and it fits to a "TEE" My wife has taken the track that I can do nothing right or in time.She is right and I am wrong period.  She gives me no credence and controls everything.  She tells me how to drive, dress what to eat, and what not.  She even corrects me in public. If I forget something, it escalates almost out of hand. 

Despite what I see as a change in my attitude, willingness, and desire to address my ADHD symptoms (purchasing and using books, listening to seminars, validating his feelings, anger, and frustrations, using a planner more frequently and ultimately being more self-aware of the impact my symptoms play in my life), my non-ADHD partner refuses to engage as part of a collaborative team.

Hello Melissa and all the ADDers out there I have been back from Iraq for about six months now and my marriage has well not been so good.  When I came back I hyper focused on fixing are marriage.  We tried going to marriage counseling a few times and Here is the part where you husbands out there with ADHD need to listen too.  Marriage counseling and meds are not a fix for your marriage so don't make the mistake I did and pretend that everything is ok and go on pretending that your marriage is fine.  The one thing I have learned is first thing is first you need to seek your own counseling an

Okay, I will try to keep this short.  So I have been in this marriage now for four years.  I have worked in mental health  for twenty years and figured out about a year and a half into the marriage that my husband has ADD.  He is on medication, some supplements and have mostly gotten him off aspartame...but he is also type 1 diabetic.  When his blood sugar is low, he is well..lets just say not very nice.  Last night he told me to "kiss my ass", after I suggested that maybe some of his behaviors were because his blood sugar was low. Between the ADD & diabetes, lack of jobs for the majori

Here I am plodding towards another lonely Christmas. Nothing has changed while HB has been away from me, in fact he has gotten a lot worse. His defensiveness is now off the scale. His family are indifferent and allow him to live with and off their elderly mother without challenge. When he has our youngest, he rings he constantly to complain about his behaviour. He also allowed him to go to the park alone (aged 10 in central London) and sleeps until 11am, leaving the child to wander around calling me frequently to ask what to do.

I have a question for the members of this forum who have ADD.  I'm in a relationship with someone who has ADD, they're susposed to love me, but as soon as someone or something new comes along, I barely exist.  This happens constantly.  How can you love someone and ignore them?  I feel like he just uses me to keep from being bored until something better comes along.   

http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevisions/Pages/proposedrevision.aspx?rid=383#

That's the link to the proposed changes coming our way with the DSM-5.  Dr. Barkley also states that they are working on a severity scale and proper discussion of the spectrum of ADHD. Finally people won't be able to pretend its just a mild disorder! What do you think or the changes?

Hi all,

My husband asked me a few days ago if we were done.  I truly don't believe we are, yet I fear I'm in denial.  We both want things from our marriage, but neither one of us are able to deliver.  My husband's ADD is worse than ever.  He's committed to getting treatment, but has missed a few appointments because he was too late to bother showing up at all.  He also confessed that he isn't getting anywhere with his therapist because she listens and offers no real advice.  My husband got in to see the psychiatrist, was given Adderall, and weeks later, got it filled yesterday.