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Hello Everyone,

First, I just want to say "thank you" to everyone who has responded to my posts on other topics.  Even if I didn't have time to respond to everyone, please know that you all are helping me a lot!  No one on the "outside" understands what it is like to be in an ADHD marriage (or at least no one I know).  I am more grateful than you'll ever know :).

Hello...

I'm relatively new to this whole thing.... I'm non-ADD, spouse is ADD since a young age.... I'm just finding out about it.   We have been together 6 years, married 3.  Been in marriage counseling as well as separate counseling.  I'm on my way to being medicated for depression, SO is on way to talk to a ADHD specialist.  All very positive things. 

Had a brief vacation w kids and spouse that ended up pleasant- tho w a rocky start. Spouse had a la adhd moment in that he did not pack but worked up til last second and then became /verbally abuse when pushed (we have to leave NOW!). But it pulled together and we had some fun. I asked at a better moment that we (kids and I) seek more stability- that if he needs to go out twice a week to decompress (yes, get drunk- he is alcoholic ImHO) then please be home the other three nights early enough so we can function better w all that needs to be done. We hugged, he said he would try.

I have the most wonderful man in my life finally! I have just recently divorced from my second husband, the man I am with now saved me from a very physically and emotionally abusive relationship. For several months everything was perfect. then the same old problems began surfacing again. He has never lied to me, (there is no question, it is fact) but yet I still find myself doubting, I am quick to feel rejected and this frustrates him.

I'm not sure if this is the right spot to post this but here goes.

I originally posted this in the wrong area (sorry for re-post!)

My husband was diagnosed about 2 years ago with ADHD. In the beginning, he read a lot of books on the subject and we talked a lot about it. He was prescribed Straterra, which has to slowly build up in your system. I felt like it was working and we had a lot fewer angry outbursts. BUT, it is really hard to tell when/if it worked b/c he often forgot to take it. Since it had to build up, it was almost like starting all over again each time he missed a few days.

My husband and I were having a random conversation yesterday and the subject of consistency came up.  He's been helping around at home quite a bit lately and I was thanking him for that.  When he asked what he could do to be more helpful, I said that to me the ultimate help is consistency.  I am always looking for things that I can get entirely off my radar because they are simply *his* to deal with. 

Dear Non(s),

Not sure what to call this question...honestly, but gardener make me think about something and then I was noticing a pattern emerging for me and a couple of other members and wanted to get some input.