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OMG!!!  I am so angry right now I could scream...if I wasn't at work.  My husband decided to quit smoking, which I totally support.  He only started smoking again a month ago so its not like its been for 20 years or something (gotta love friends that encourage bad habits).  He knows that we don't have the money for him to smoke and to take our vacation in a week, he has spent almost half of what I had saved smoking. So yesterday hes going on and on about how he isn't even craving a cigarette and how well hes doing, for which I was supportive and happy.  Fast forward to this morning and when

I had know about it, in a manner of speaking, for not that long...and only suspected for about 5 months, and so finally worked up the nerve to confront her, as I felt that she might just up and leave. 

Hi everyone,

I am 37, partner to someone who I think has ADD, and mom to 2 great kids.

I think he has ADD because he shows all the signs of it, even jokes about it sometimes, but never has gotten it checked out.  Going to a doctor isn't on his radar, unless it's to the ER for something and even then...

Hi everyone!  I have to say I feel incredibly lucky to have found this site, its like someone has been sitting in my house for the last 4 years taking notes!!  A little background about us, my husband and I have been together 5 years (4 kids between the two of us but none together) and married for 3....the first year was great and it only went downhill from there.  He really did become a different person and nothing I said could make him see that...he was angry, hostile and always ready for a fight.  Mix that with addictions, cheating (the most recent was in June of this year) and him decid

I haven’t posted to this site in a very long time. I am the non-adhd spouse in my marriage. I The long and short of it is that I married a person, who at the time and unbeknownst to me, was hyper focusing on me. I thought that I was joining my life to a man who was engaging and funny and thought that the moon and sun rose and set on me. This was very appealing to me because I am co-dependent and insecure. The constant attention, reassurance and emotional overload was JUST what I’d always dreamed of.

I have read through these posts looking for insight and hope. Perhaps some of the articulate and compassionate people here might be able to help me.

How to distill this into something less than a novel? I am a non-ADD man in love with an ADD woman in her early 20’s. She was diagnosed some time ago and has had treatment, though currently is taking no medication.

I've been with my husband for 16 years. He was diagnosed about 10 years ago with varying amounts of counseling and medications over the years. It's been a roller coaster of ups and downs. We have 2 kids which has added to the stress and responsibilities that have to be navigated. I get very hurt and angry when something happens or doesn't happen that is related to his ADHD. For a long time I didn't say much and just thought it was my job to be a good wife and be understanding.

Hello everyone,

I have been reading on this site on and off for about a year or so now.  I have never been one to post on any forums but now I am in desperate need of help and some kind of encouragement from people who are experienced.  I did recently purchase Melissa's book and have also gotten Dr. Hallowell's book, Driven from Distraction though I'm not done reading either yet.

To Stay or To Leave, this is my question.  I have separated from my husband of 9 years for a month. I have been suspecting he has ADHD.  Two therapists he saw commented about it, but no formal diagnosis was done.  I was badly hurt (emotionally) by his sudden erupted anger.  He kicked me out of the car several times on the freeway.

What questions are helpful in finding a couples therapist who really understands the dynamics of ADHD in a marriage? I wish more therapists/LCSW had websites sharing their philosophy. How do they effectively balance what works for both partners? The last one we went to let sessions just go on without any suggestions on how to communicate better and there wasn't any follow up at the next session if we ran out of time.