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Hello everyone, I'm new here.  My name is Andy and I am actually a single man in a serious dating relationship.  The week between Christmas and new years, I stayed with my girlfriend's sister and her husband (and my girlfriend was there too).  I had a wonderful time, but after it was over, my girlfriend informed me that I was rude to her family unintentionally the whole time I was there.  I struggle a lot with social etiquette in ways most people take for granted.  Here are some examples what I struggle with:

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This year has just been so bad.   I had my annual freakout where I started thinking about moving out, but settled for announcing that I just couldn't do it all and that I was overwhelmed and it wasn't fair.   So ADHD husband did pick up some slack, but I still had to re-clean before guests came over, and now to protests from the family while I did it (yes, you did vacuum, but you didn't make sure the vacuum picked everything up and the floor is covered with popcorn).   But then he didn't get me a Christmas gift and on Christmas morning everyone opened ALL the gifts I purchased them and I ju

My husband is diagnosed but untreated.  I just feel like I'm lost.  I'm out of energy and burned out and don't know what to do to get over the anger, disappointment, and resentment.  

There seem to be lots of support groups for couples where one of the members has ADHD. Lots of advice given...I find very little on the situation of both partners having ADHD! I believe this situation poses special challenges, and would love to hear from others who are in the same boat as me. Additionally, ADHD often exists in tandem with other issues (C-PTSD, high functioning Autism, Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder...etc). The challenges are immense. I've managed to hang in there through 30+ years of marriage, but Covid killed my few social outlets.

I've been struggling with this question. I think like all of you, I had the hyperfocused courtship which was ripped away and replaced with a desire to chase shiny things and find more and more discontent in the shiny thing he once was so excited about.

Im tired. I actually don't nag. I do walk on eggshells. And I've suffered tremendous pain, both from actions and words. I'm not good enough for him. Or not enough to take a close look at his own behavior. 

Scanning over the lists of post titles as I have fairly often the past nine years or so...The prevalent common theme is just desperate people seeking answers that might lighten the burden they find them selves under because of failed communication attempts, and of course our view of why "spousal behaviors".

Hi Everyone! This is my first post on this site and in fact I don't post online much at all, certainly not about myself. I have only commented on one other user's post so far. I have tried to search to find helpful stories already posted, but decided to share my plight as we're all individuals, so here goes.

I met my wife 3 years 8 months ago, proposed 1 year 2 months ago and married her 4 months ago. And we've already both thrown the "D" word around more than once but I think I think it more than her - whenever I feel I'm not good enough and I'm holding her back.

Hi.  New here.  My husband has ADHD.  He was diagnosed as a teen, didn't like and quit the medicine a couple of months later, and refuses to contemplate treatment of any sort now.  We've been together nearly 17 years, married almost 4years.  The same time we married, our (my) youngest moved out and we were alone for the first time since moving in together after 10 years long distance.  All of the behaviors I'm struggling with were there the whole time, but I tried to deal with them, thinking it was the stress of having 3 teenagers or trying to adjust to living together or just learning each

Is there any correlation between adhd and the adhd man or woman shutting people out when they get mad at them? Whether or not they were in the wrong?

My wife pretty much alienated many people in her family. She had no issue telling them that they were dead to her.

Hi, reaching out for a sanity check. I'm the non-adhd spouse. Husband has appt for medication next month. Had ADHD entire life, untreated. I'm trying to hold out to see what happens with medication. But in the meantime...