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As I continue to read about ADHD there is a lot of focus on inconsistency- but to me this seems like an extremely vague reference. Does it apply to everything or is it primarily applicable to task completion or forgetfulness. Is it a matter of saying one thing and doing another (ie- lets go to the movies, but when you leave the house you are headed in a completely different direction actually going away from the movie theater?).

My husband use to be very affectionate. All while we were dating, and engaged and for a while in our marriage. During the past year he has become less and less affectionate. When I asked him about it, and explained how important it is to me, he said that he can't really be that way anymore because of his ADD. I asked him why he had no problem holding me before bed, or cuddling with me before. He said that he was never able to sleep or relax, and that it was always this way.. he just hid it. I try to be understanding and put it into perspective, but I find myself being hurt a lot.

I am new to this forum. When I read so many of the posts, I felt a lot of relief. It was as if I was reading a mirror image of our life.  What I don't understand is why people with ADD or ADHD can't see the havoc they are causing.  The tension in our house is ridiculous. He is terrible at doing household chores and admittedly I am worn to the nub. The frustration level with my spouse is hitting an all time high. Tempers are flaring. My parents, who live with us due to my Mother's disability, are fed up with his behaviour.

I have been married to my ADHD husband for 5 years, and we have no children.  More and more lately I have been fantasizing about just asking for a divorce and throwing in the towel.  The main reason I haven't yet is because I'm terrified of the whole "grass is always greener" situation where I will regret doing this (as divorce should be an absolute last resort).

Had a job interview this morning for a job that would be perfect for me.  Only part time - but it will definitely lead to many more things if I get it.

The most encouraging thing about THIS interview though, as opposed to past interviews I've had is that i did NOT get off track and talk too much and go off on an unrelated, out of control tangent.  I did NOT interrupt anyone, I did NOT fidget and I was 5 minutes early.

So, even if I don't actually get the job, I count this as a victory!

The other day I told my husband a new plan I had for finding a job.  He thought it was a great idea, but I could tell he was skeptical about the chance of me actually following through.

He was visibly stunned about an hour ago when I got off the phone and said, "I've got an interview tomorrow morning!"

Yay!

My husband and I have only been married less than a year and we are in a sad state. We had a whirlwind romance after being friends for a year and we were completely enamored with eachother. I know we have what it takes to be the couple married for fifty years embarrassing their grandkids with their PDA. Things started off badly for us though. He was all the things described in the books: caring, spontaneous, funny, loyal. But we soon found ourselves in big trouble. He developed a premature ejaculation problem, and would apologize but immediately fall asleep.

It's my 1st time posting here and I guess this is as much of a vent as anything.....but any tips on how to keep myself and our 3 year old son out of the way of my husbands anger would be very helpful. My husband has ADD. He takes all his stress and frustration out on us every day. I think about ending this marriage every day when the three of us are together and the stress is killing me. I can't wait for my husband to leave for work so that we can have some peace in the few minutes before I bring my son to daycare and I go to work.

I'm the non-ADD spouse who's been married for almost 7 years.  We have 2 beautiful children and in the midst of another 'crisis' I decided to explore another avenue than I had previously.  Among other things, my husband has the tendency to 'email' and/or converse with women from his past purely to get the attention that I am obviously not giving him.  This has been an issue since the 1st year of our marriage.  I've been on this 'changing what I can control' kick since February of this year.  Realizing that I can only control me.  I can not control my husbands behaviors, a

My DH and I started out arguing last night, but ended up with a new understanding.  I wish we did not have to fight to get to the gold nugget, but alas, that is just the way it works sometimes.  I have been working really hard in the last week or so (well okay, with a few setbacks along the way).  But my DH has not mentioned noticing anything.  I was beginning to think that if I am working as hard as I can and he doesn't even notice, am I EVER going to make any progress (with him)?!