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My ADHD DH and I are currently separated.  A little background on us - we've been married for 12 years this year but we've been friends for over 19 years.  When our eldest son was diagnosed with ADHD I started doing research on it.  My DH and I were already having marital problems and were in counseling.  At the time the counselor thought he was Bi-polar and referred us to a therapist.  The therapist diagnosed him with ADHD, depression and anxiety.  We were thrilled!  An ADHD diagnosis was way better then a Bi-polar one right?

It is 1:58 AM and I can not sleep..... I am the non-ADD spouse to a recently diagnosed (within the last year) ADD spouse.  I am in tears as I write this...but let me give a little brief history to paint a clearer picture.

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Hi all, am using this forum to try to get rid of my sadness tonight. Not really looking for a great epiphany because... Well just because. I avoid saying to much details about my personal life here because it is so public but those who have read my posts know Ive had some rough times w my spouse. And yet we have kept together and are still married- tho separated for several months. He says he is still in the relationship but what he says and does sometimes seem like two very different things. I am alone A LOT w the kids and the anxiety and loneliness are brutal.

Tonight, I had a mild anxiety attack about having a second child.  (TTC) 

I love kids. It just that two years ago today I was being cut open in an emergency C section after a difficult and traumatic preterm labor, pre-ceeded by a bout of preeclampsia.

The anniversary of my grandfather's death was this week. (The grief of which sent me into my first ever major depressive episode).

I was in a minor car accident tonight.

So some big triggers, right?  At least in combination.

Tried to talk my ADHD spouse about it. 

My ADHD husband usually goes to sleep around 2:00 to 3:00 am, yet continually complains about how tired he is. He just will NOT go to bed earlier, and says that he is "not tired", which is not true. He even falls asleep driving (arrrgh).

I am a SAHM so I do the most of the "spending" in our household.  What I mean by that is that I buy the groceries, school supplies, kids clothes, etc.  Anything we need, I make it happen, which means I do the spending. 

 

Greetings all –

1. I am a stay at home mom to our two kids and have no means of providing for ourselves at the moment.

2. It feels wrong to leave my DH who is "broken."

Does that make sense?

#1 scares the daylights out of me.  If I choose to leave, I do have a place to go (live with friends) but I can't be a freeloader forever.  I would have to get recertified in my field in order to go back to work and I don't know how much time or money that might take.  I've been a stay at home mom for 7 years and stupidly let my certification lapse.