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Well, lately I have been very active on this site and many people have commented about how much my posts have helped and enlightened them.  However...you can probably deduce from the sheer quantity of my posts in the past few days how many hours I have spent on this stupid computer.  That naturally means I have not been doing other things...IMPORTANT things!  This is where I turn my "Good" strength (written communication skills, compassion for others) into a "Bad" or a weakness/failure, because I will hyper-focus on such written communication and ignore my more pressing responsibilities.

This is my second marriage and my husband's (who has ADD) 4th. When I fell in love with and married my husband he was taking Welbutrin. After we were married (3 years ago)  he took himself off Welbutrin and stopped taking Adderal. He said he's fine and doesn't need it..... And that his psychiatrist agrees (The 10 minute phone call once a month psychiatrist). I can go about a month being loving, supportive, patient, tip toeing around his defensiveness and sensitivity and being invisible before I get angry..... I get really, really angry and try to hurt him verbally.

Are headaches a common side effect from ADD meds?

My 13 yr old son and I both have ADD (without the H).  He is having headaches almost daily.  They are not debilitating headaches, just nagging, and they seem to usually hit in the afternoons (maybe 2pm-ish) and last for 2-3 hours.   I suspect it is from his medication, but I am not sure?  He is currently taking Vyvanse, 50mg.  (I recently had his vision checked, so I know that is not causing the headaches.)

As an ADHD-adult, my actions, non-actions or words are often misinterpreted, much to my chagrin.  I am beginning to believe that relationship problems stemming from ADHD are actually just a huge set of repeated misunderstandings.  I have realized that frequently, someone I love or care about, or maybe even someone I just met, will INTERPRET something I do or say (or don't do or say), thinking that I was "sending a message" of some kind.

I've stepped away from this site for several days and decided to look back at some old posts from some others. I did not want to comment on a post from a year ago because I wanted to revisit history in the present.

Howdy All- I recently posted a bit about our diagnostic oddessy for my DH in the appropriate section. I am currently experiencing a profound sense of loss and sadness despite it looking like we may have finally found a name for this thing that has affected our lives so tragically. My DSS has been diagnosed with combined type impulsive/ inattentive, so it stands to reason, based on discussions with the child psychologist, that this is what is crippling my husbands interactions, as well. I am so very lonely for my husbands love and affection.

We are currently waiting for my husbands referral to go through for the local area psychiatrist that does adult ADHD diagnostic testing.

My DSS was recently diagnosed and during the process my spouse began realizing that he heavily related to what we came to know as symptoms during the process.

My husband has been being treated for 'depression' by our family doctor without significant results for probably two years.

I have ADHD and have been diagnosed for many years. Take medicine to even out the thinking and have seen many therapists over the years. Over the years I have worked very hard on changing many of the ADHD issues, such as communications, anger levels, job hoping, financial ruin, and task completion. Have I succeeded at all? NO, not at all. AM I still working on them? Yes. Always trying to understand the effects my ADHD has caused in my marriage. I know ADHD does cause issues beyond the normal man-woman issues. I know I am the cause of a lot of our issues, but not all of them.

I've been reading the forums for the past couple of weeks and often I'll get halfway through a response to someone who is going through so many of the same things and I'll stop and have to erase it because I'm not offering advice, I'm venting. I have the intention of offering advice but lately it all turns sour.

 I guess I don't understand why we "non's" of ADHD'ers are told we are trying to "fix" our spouses ADHD. Most of the time we are trying to help things run smoother instead of having so much CHAOS all the time. The stress of trying to have as "normal" a life as possible, but always finding ourselves in extremely difficult situations, is a frustrating thing. Those of us who have had multiple years of undiagnosed adhd have lived a life of such confusion, that it's hard to understand the differences between "fixing" and "being able to get things accomplished with the least amount of stress".