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First time poster so forgive the vent and stupid questions.

Our marriage therapist and I think my DH has ADHD. He's semi-responsive to this diagnosis and hasn't been officially tested. The sad thing is when he was all set to go to a therapist to discuss these issues, the therapist turned out to be not right for him and essentially misguided the diagnosis, told him he didnt' want help for other issues, gave him a referral where our marriage therapist said 'OMG don't go to that person". So now he's discouraged and hasn't looked into any personal therapist.

So I have made the first step in ending my marriage to my ADD husband.  NSDH has gotten more and more controlling over the past 3 weeks - he has locked down all of our liquid assets to which he now has full access to and I none, he decides what is spent and on what and when, he is still having outbursts with me and the kids and if I go out with friends I have to answer his questions: who will be there, where are you meeting at, why are you meeting those people, when will you be back, ect. like his is my parent and I have to answer to him.

I have never written anything on a forum before, but I really need to vent, and wonder if anyone else on this forum has the same experience and advice about what to do...

I just got the book ADHD Effect on Marriage. I am the partner of a wonderfully messed up man. If it was only ADHD. But I see how it has effected all his choices . How many times I have tried to talk to him about choices! Anyhow this is about hope. Today I start a new adventure and hope with his and my effort we can find happiness because we are still in love. Go figure I don't know how it is possible. He was diagnosed in childhood and was on med. for years till  either he didn't take it anymore or his parents just gave up.

Hi everyone,

I'm battling trying to get a better grip on my ADHD and my biggest problems is Insomnia. I've tried natural herbs, teas even doubled up and taking them two or three hours before bedtime. Nothing much is helping, either I just dont sleep or I wake every 2 or 3 hours and my head goes into action.

What do some of you that also have sleeping problems use or do to overcome this issue. I become such an emotional wreck without sleep, it's embarrassing.

When my husband's angry, upset, frustrated, hungry, overtired, "triggered," or just took his medicine / forgot to take his medicine, the diva behavior comes out. Today, he pulled a Naomi on me -- that's right, he screamed at me and threw a phone at me.

...and I think my ADHD fiance has blown a gasket.

So I have been learning new things every day.  Today I learned that I really have to change not just saying it actually do it.  My wife has been telling me the problems she has been facing with our marriage I have always took the blame and said I would change but two days later back to doing the same thing over and over to the point now that we have found out that I have ADHD and know that I was not doing those things on purpose.  Having ADHD is not a excess though it may be the reason why but you cannot live life using ADHD as a excuse to ignore you wife or treat your marriage as a norma

I was diagnosed with ADHD only a couple of months ago along with anxiety disorder. I am not any medication, but on breathing exercises and other physical treatments. However, my condition has caused the demise of my seven-year relationship of which 5 were spent in marriage. My husband is a good man with some faults which i was incapable of dealing with in socially appropriate ways. For example, lack of responses to questions or vague answers and explanations used to eat at me so much that i would get angry, aggressive, and sometimes violent.