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Ok it has been 7 days since Dh and I have begun (what I call) our in house separation.  And what a week it has been! Things started off kind of rough for me, but as I began to take control of my life things have certainly improved.

Ok so I am deployed and found out that ADD has affected my marriage in very bad way.  I love my wife so much and I dont know what to do now.  How do you communicate and fix a marriage when you are deployed to Iraq.  I am reading books and now know what I did wrong, but I am so afraid of going back to me not paying attention to her, being to distracted.  Will meds and therapy help in those areas,  Any Ideas, or suggestions

I've been visiting this site for the last several months. I attempted to share my discovery with my husband, but he simply took it as an insult. I tried again recently by reading "Men Who Aren't Convinced that ADHD Matters." He claimed to have no argument with the blog but wanted to know why the wife's mental temperament wasn't discussed-alas he missed the entire point. Tonight we had dinner with his parents. During a discussion he started interrogating me in a very accusing tone, only to realize the information I was sharing was information he shared with me a few weeks ago.

I moved in with my ADHD partner about 9 months into our relationship after a whirlwind courtship. Since then, I've started law school and am absolutely losing my mind trying to keep track of everything going on in his life while simultaneously trying to balance schoolwork and my own time commitments. I find myself encouraging him to go out with his friends, do ANYTHING besides be at the house when I am.

I always hear people comparing ADHD to diabetes or high blood pressure when they say things like, "would you take insulin if you had diabetes or BP meds if you had a cardiovascular problem?".

It's my understanding that ADHD is a brain disorder that seems to affect the motor, emotional, 'executive function', areas of the brain. It seems it affects every function from sleep to how they communicate with others to angry emotional outbursts! 

Today was just one of those bad days. I've been having some problems with my DH lately with communication, basically how I see it from my side is that he doesn't listen to me. And he seriously doesn't. He's on some kind of autopilot that makes him register half of what I say and then I end up having to repeat things about 3 times. This has been building up my frustration and even though I am trying so incredibly hard to control myself, to sound positive, to be nice it is causing huge problems.

I have been reading everyone's posts here like they were water in the desert. I am not happy to see so many going through struggles similar to mine, but happy not to feel alone in the issues I have. My husband has ADD/ADHD, always has. It used to be more manageable but he was injured and now has a brain injury on top of it, and so his short term memory, some common sense and emotional filters and ability to empathize are pretty much gone. He won't remember putting laundry in the wash 2 minutes before. He won't remember the answer to a question asked 2 minutes before.

Hi-  It's been a while since I've been here, but I find myself coming back over and over again as this is the only place where I feel like there are others like me who are struggling and clinging and smiling and trying to hang on during the CRAZY ride of long-term marriage to an unrepentant (albeit medicated) ADD spouse.   My husband has "blown up" 8  jobs in the last 12 years (quitting because of some perceived injustice or being unappreciated in his mind), and finally, after a hiatus after bailing on the last one 2 years ago, got a part-time job at a local school.  It was kind of his dr

My husband is inert. I feel like I'm married to a potted plant. When he comes home, he's "tired." He used to like to cook, now it's "I'm too tired, will you cook dinner?", which of course, I don't mind since I'm not working. Then we curl up in bed to watch TV (bedroom is the only room we can afford to heat), I knit or cross-stitch and he falls asleep. He says there's nothing wrong but it's driving me nuts. I thought they were supposed to by HYPERactive, not HYPOactive! Does anyone have any ideas?

I was diagnosed with ADD as a child they told me when I turned 15 that I had to learn how to deal with it and I thought I did.  I have been married now for 8 years and I thought everything was great sure me and my wife had are problems but it was not till I deployed were I am currently at that I found out she was thinking about divorce because she could not take the way I have been acting.  I look back at the things I have done ie being distracted when she was trying to have a real conversation, not being involved in what she is into, Always thinking about what I wanted to do, irratating