Driving me crazy!
Okay, I've just gotta vent about driving, the rules of the road or just sitting in the car!
Okay, I've just gotta vent about driving, the rules of the road or just sitting in the car!
I was surfing the web today looking for some answers and I found your website, and it immediately looked helpful. My husband has ADHD, I don't. We met in Italy where he was stationed for the military, got married and I followed him here to the States. Our relationship has been pretty good...we have a 1 year old boy and a baby girl on the way. When my son was 10 months old, I was diagnosed with Post Partum Depression. In the months prior to this "discovery", I believe our relationship sunk. The communication stopped and he went looking for attention talking to random people online.
I'm having trouble staying patient with my ADD partner and his moodiness/irritability/anger/impulse control...
I don't know how much of this is *just* ADD...?
He denies it's a problem, of course. ;)
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I am wondering if any one has any suggestions on how to let go of the hurt and resentment that has built up inside me… I joined this site about a month ago and made a post about my suspicions of my husband having ADHD… well they were confirmed 100% and he was put on Aderall… the dose is low and though he has been faithful about taking them for the past few weeks… nothing has really changed or improved.
I have this serious problem and tonight finally was the last straw that brought me here. I discovered your website and have been reading it all over the place, of which I may be all over the place with this post, but will try to get it all in.
Well, after 4 weeks off from counseling, we head back tomorrow. Over this time we have had a downward spiral from the progress that we had made and now (I feel that we are starting again from square one). So after weeks of poor behavior (isolation, explosive outbursts, intimidation, sleeping on the couch, quiting /starting med's w/o drs knowledge, lies, ect from him.
So I got caught not paying attention to my ADHD fiance the other day. For close to three hours she was either going on and on about some topic and then would switch to complete silence as she shopped online. It switched back and forth so much, and I was busy putting together something that I completely shut her off and gave her canned answers to make her think i was listening (i know - something out of a bad sitcom). Well eventually she saw through that and thanks to her knack of holding on to every. little. thing. ever.
My husband and I have been married for only 3 and a half years- I am 27 and he is 28. I knew he had ADHD when I met him because he talked about how it affected him at school. I never saw any signs of it while we were dating so I thought it was something he grew out of. I was wrong, over the last two years I feel like we have been on a down hill spiral.
With time, beta blockers and peace, I am beginning to calm down.