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I am new...  My husband was diagnosed about 9 years ago with adhd.  i keep holding on to hope for a marriage with a partner who is consistently the same each day  but i fear it will never come to pass.  we can have one good day, then 8 bad days, then 2 good days then 2 bad...  IT IS NEVER SMOOTH or consistent.  Our arguments about this invade our lives constantly and take us away from what is important:  working, raising a family and loving one another. 

My wife took a vacation away from me with the kids to see her family.  I secretly stowed the book in her luggage with a nice love'ish letter.  She "skimmed" the book and found "a lot" that she related to and understood.   But it's all for naught.  She's absolutely stuck in anger mode and told me last night that she wants a separation (read: with all that she's planned for, divorce; but she has to wait a year to get that).  I tried talking to her and pleading with her, but literally, every statement I made was instantly morphed into a putdown or threat in her eyes.

When my husband started Concerta about 5-6 weeks ago, I was concerned. Mainly because he took it many years ago (although only officially being diagnosed this past summer...his PCP prescribed it for him because I suppose he always knew something was wrong with his racing mind) and when he took it he became combative and irritable. At only rare times in our marriage was he 'mean' like this. He's much more of a passive/agressive ADDer.

Just recently I was diagnosed with ADD and started medication a long with talk to a counselor.  Within the last 5 weeks my wife and I have been "in-house" separated I live/sleep down stairs when the kids go do bed.  We had a talk last week and we have actually started making progress which is a GOOD thing.  Now my questions are about the holiday's and how do we act?  Since my wife and I barely do anything together, we do not talk, we do not do anything that would be considered husband and wife, do we go to each other's family during the holiday's or I go to mine and she goes to hers? 

I keep seeing a theme...that the ADDers aren't capable of change...and it really makes me sad, regardless of circumstances, that this is something people truly feel. I think people are equally capable and incapable of change, across the board, and ADD plays a small role in it..maybe.

I've had problems in the past with speaking before thinking, but I think it is getting worse or maybe I am being hyper critical about it.  However, lately my comments are getting me "in trouble" with myself and others.  I'm fast to say no, or make a negative crack after someone makes a statement or asks a question.  This happens mostly at home with my sons and husband.

Hi, I am a new poster, but have been lurking for days.  My husband does not have a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD, but I have realized that there is something desperately wrong with him for a long time.  We have been married for 12 years, and the "honeymoon" ended when our first child was born- seems like literally when she took her first breath, I fell into the well of loneliness.

Ok so I am the non, my husband is the adhder. We have had are ups and downs in our marriage just like most adhd relationships. I love my adhder very much! He has many good qualities as a person, husband, and father. I have been trying to learn about adhd because I want to keep my marriage, I know the way I deal with his adhd affects our relationship as much as the adhd. I am trying to look past all of your old crap and start looking and treating our marriage in a new way. I have always know he had adhd however I never took the time to learn about it until recently.

In a nutshell, ADHD Boyfriend and I had a whirlwind/hyperfocused romance for 1 mth, and are in a long-distance relationship for 6-7 mths. We work for the same company ; he works offshore. We live in different countries, so when he gets his month off from work, he goes back to the US. He doesn't call, till he gets back.

I've been with my partner for 2 years. We have been planning a wedding for about 6 months.  She is a very caring, loving and funny person.  But she gets so unpredictable and unreliable that i get nervous about her stability with work.  She has had more jobs in the two years I've been with her than I've had my entire life.  She has been upfront with me and has told me that she has ADHD, Depression and PTSD. But to tell you the truth i didn't know what that ment.  As quickly as she can be happy and romantic, she can turn and be the most evil mouthed intimidating person you could ever meet.