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It has finally come to an end.  I had to get him to leave last night.  It all started because I made the comment that I wished he would have turned the ice maker on when he had mixed himself a drink so that we would have ice now.  And then he goes on to say that he doesn't know how to turn it on or off or if it is even on or off and I had to explain to him that if the green light is on,  it's on and if it's off, it's off.  Then he asked me why it was off and I had to explain that if you did not turn it off then the freezer would be overflowing with ice and that I would expect that anyone wo

My husband and step son (7yrs) have ADHD (not on medication). I have a son (8yrs) with anger problems and a one year old baby. I am a stay home mom and I am in working on my Bachelors. I am a very clean organized person, however my family is very messy and unorganized (I feel like a maid) My husband works 7 days a week, 12 hours a day. (late hours and weekends by choice) We are very much in debt to say the least. My husband has a big problem managing money. We have been together for 7 years, I am starting to feel like our marriage is turning into a mother son relationship.

Here I am at 230am sitting up with a teething screaming baby. My wife seems to be able to convince our 13 month old to sleep by turning him on his side, and giving him a pacifier. He sees me & he gets up bouncing. I work Fri - Mon, so I know she needs a break Sunday night... but trying to teach the baby good habits for the future and keep him settled now seem mutually exclusive. I know I've set his expectations incorrectly which is why she ttells me to deal with it as I've created this situation and maybe this will help me learn the lesson.

Does anyone else deal with their spouse and their odd "requests"?  Example: my ADD husband will insist that we not open the large garage door and use the side door instead.  If one of us chooses to open the large garage door - he is instantly mad!

 There are lots of frustrating things about my add husband but this one of late is driving me to madness. My husband can not keep his hands off my stuff. He says "if your crap wasn't such a mess I wouldn't have to touch it" Its not even a privacy thing; its sheer mayhem because I can't put my hands on things when I need them. ie: flash drive at 9:55pm when the printer ink runs out, collectible posters that were there 2 weeks ago,  He loses his stuff a lot, is late, forgetful, blurts, interrupts and worst of all does not connect the dots!!

Okay, so 4 weeks ago (about) my husband tells me that he is miserable and if counseling doesn't work - he is leaving me.  2 weeks ago, he wants to sell our house and buy a new one together. He thinks that working from home rather than the office is a great idea - then he is reminded of when he did do that how unhappy he was to not have contact with others everyday.

My husband seems to take all things to the extreme. He was informed that forms of exercise help ADDer's  - okay great. Yeah, not so much. He apparently believes that this is a ticket to exercise all of the time, without regard to anyone else.  Normal people will exercise 4-5 times a week - fit it in during lunch breaks, before work, ect.  Not him - he will get home from work (late) eat his reserved dinner plate and head out.

Why, why, why! HOW DARE YOU UNWRAP SOMETHING AND JUST LEAVE IT ON THE COUNTER!!!WHY - BECAUSE YOU KNOW THAT THE OTHER PERSON ON THE HOUSE WHO CAN'T STAND IT WILL CLEAN UP AFTER YOU INSTEAD OF GO AFTER YOU AND "NAG" AND "REMIND" BECAUSE IT IS POINTLESS????

My AD/ADHD husband is a musician and songwriter. After a couple of years urging him to get to play out, he finally got an opportunity to do a benefit performance at the local VA (he is a Vietnam vet who also suffers from PTSD, but that's another story....). After scrambling for hours before the performance that same evening to find everything he needed and get his gear in order, he admitted that he should never be so unprepared again and next time will be ready at least 2 days ahead of time.

After reading and learning, on this site and others, I understand the whole "now, not now" time frame ADDers operate from...

What I don't understand is how to live with it!?!?!?!

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