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Hi, reaching out for a sanity check. I'm the non-adhd spouse. Husband has appt for medication next month. Had ADHD entire life, untreated. I'm trying to hold out to see what happens with medication. But in the meantime...

Hi all,

Firstly, I'll start by saying that I've been browsing this forum for some time so thanks to each and every one of you who contributes. It's very powerful to read other people's stories and, rightly or wrongly, I take comfort in knowing I'm not alone.

So,a bit about me - 

My ldr gf has bad ADHD that includes severe depression (dx). Her parents, sister and I are worried about her current situation. She’s lived alone for the last 3 months, 4 hours away from them in Texas and I live here in Massachusetts. 

I've been with my husband for 18years, dealing with undiagnosed ADHD (diagnosed this year). I thought my relationship was "normal", challenging yes, but challenges all couples face. 

I am new here, and this my second post.

I have spent the last 2 months reading this forum, all the things people have posted could have been me and my 30 year relationship.

Since it has ended, I feel that I shouldn't be tying up anyone here because my relationship is over.

I have so many questions, so much I am trying to reconcile- maybe most of you have had that feeling...'Was anything real?'

Long history of poor relationship due to undiagnosed and treated ADHD and cheating from impulse control.

Hi all! New here. My partner 32M diagnosed with ADHD and I are going away to NZ in three days. Usually I would be so excited to leave the country (first time since 2019) but the lead up and packing has been stressful to say the least. Sorry for the upcoming rant. 

My long distance girlfriend (who was diagnosed with ADD/depression years ago) basically told me a couple of weeks back how due to her ADD she forgot to bring in an assignment to her vet tech class and got an F (it's an aggressive one year school before she graduates). Then she said she's thinking of stripping. I told her don't as it's dangerous (particularly where she has to live to be near the school). She blocked me for no reason last week. We are still friends on Facebook and the only way to chat is on her posts.

I have questions about ADHD and need some help reconciling my thoughts and feelings after a 30 year relationship ended 2 months ago.

1) What happens when an ADHD spouse- female, aged 50, doesnt seek therapy/treatment strategies for the ADHD?

2) What happens when said ADHD spouse does not take medication properly, lays off of it on weekends, or misses it?

3) What happens when said ADHD spouse also is a closet drinker and self medicates with alcohol because it 'helps them deal with issues'?