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As I read the posts of women that are frustrated, tired, and angry at having to deal with their ADHD spouse I am left wondering. Is it really ADHD that causes these things? Could it be just personality traits? Is the ADHD a diagnosis that allows the affected individual to not take responsibility for their actions?

Do women who do NOT have ADHD spouses experience the same frustrations that those of us with effected spouses do? I would say yes. How much then is due to the dx and how much is due to other factors?

Hi,

Check out my recent post entitled "Our Hard Work Seems to be Paying Off" in the "Communications with ADHD" topic area.  I am actually feeling hopeful today, whereas just 3 days ago I was wondering if maybe my wife and I ought to split up.  I can attest to the fact that a relationship with someone with ADHD is very hard work, and also that the hard work does seem like it will pay off.  I really do appreciate all the responses I have gotten to what feels to me like an awful lot of posts that I have made in recent weeks.  I definitely plan to continue using this forum to get feedback, advice,

Last night my wife wasn't ready to come up to bed when I went to bed so I kissed her goodnight and said "Please don't stay up all night" and she said "I won't."  She did not come up to bed until the exact time I was going to get up from bed (the alarm had gone off about 15 minutes earlier).  She got into bed.  I cuddled up to her and have her a kiss and asked "Did you get your work done?"  She said she had.  I asked "Did you get any sleep?"  She replied that she had gotten some.  She said, "I should have moved from the love seat to the couch, though."  I asked "How come you didn't come up t

We have strange dynamics around household tasks. I'd like opinions on how to get unblocked in this area.

I am physically limited and have a lot of pain on normal activities like walking. My husband has pretty severe inattentive ADD. Soon after we married, he lost his job and didn't work regularly for 3 years. He's working now, at a rather difficult job that he loves. I went back to school while he wasn't working, figuring if I had to support another person the rest of my life, I needed a better job. I lost my job in November.

One of the blogs awhile ago recommended "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" (something like that).

My ex-ADHDer and I have friends that are a couple. He is one of the husbands best friends and I am the wife's best friend. Husband and wife moved on Saturday hence, got to see the Ex.

I said to my wife (ADD) the other day, after a particularly horrific fight (at least it was horrific from my perspective) - "I just can't take it anymore.  We can't keep fighting like this."  She replied that all couples fight, that fighting is normal.  I said disagreements are certainly normal, and maybe fighting sometimes is normal, but I didn't think that fights like we have been having, where one or both partners are yelling, cursing, slamming doors, etc.

My wife (ADD) and I (non-ADD) had a really big fight this weekend, and I need some more advice.  In case you haven’t seen my past postings – my wife and I have both been working very hard to express love to the other – me by criticizing less and using words of affirmation and physical touch more, and my wife by giving me more attention without distraction.  And we had just had a pretty good week.  But then:

I debated where to put this post but ultimately decided that it sort of stands on its own.  We are about 2.5 years into our ADD (Inattentive) diagnosis and approaching 1 year of real work on it (1 year was spent with him grieving/denying while I educated myself, 6 months really getting a handle on tools & waiting on appts and SLOOOW progress to manifest, and now I think we basically know what to do but it is difficult to do except under *ideal* circumstances).  When we are both on top of our game, we meet together regular and iron our the schedules, we each stay on top of what we need t