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Hi!

We believe my husband has ADD or ADHD. He has not been treated or diagnosed yet (we are working on that) but he answers "yes" to most symptoms of ADD.

So I have a question, I'd like to know if anyone else has dealt with or experienced this - My husband voices ALL of his thoughts.

For example, if we are watching a movie, he talks to/at the movie. He gasps, exclaims, and says things like "why did he do that, where is that person going, etc..." He also does this while reading a book or while working on a project.

I just started reading these forums - and so many of the problems and complaints I completely identify with, as my husband has ADHD.  He doesn't spend indiscriminately or rack up debt & is very driven, but he's still making me absolutely insane.  He constantly takes on projects that aren't absolutely necessary at the expense of family time, the latest being a house search (we live in a perfectly fine house, could use something larger, but this could have definitely waited) instead of spending time with our newest child, complains about how many things he has on his to-do list, complains

Lately, my ADD wife (who is now all too familiar with some of the impact her ADD is having in her social relationships), is beginning to share her feelings of overwhelm and low self-esteem with me.  Things like "I just have SO many things to work on and I can't be working on these things all the time!" and "I can't believe anybody even likes me because I am so bad in conversations."

I know she is "trying hard" to change things.  She got diagnosed and she is on meds, and she has done some reading.  There have been some changes but not a lot.

I wondered if someone would be able to help me please?

My husband is only 22 but was diagonised with ADHD when he was about 12years old, he was on concerter for about 5 years, he then came off them just before he met me. I have always knew he had adhd and it never bothered me as i learnt to deal with his outbursts, tantrums, lack of concentration and inappropriate comments he would make! 

My husband is diagnosed with ADD and depression. He's been taking the same anti-depressant for years successfully. Then we realized he has ADD too, and found him a doctor to prescribe ADD meds.

I am beyond exhausted and I don't know what to do. My ADD husband* falls into an awful "cycle" or "pattern" whenever I have needs. It goes something like this:

I'm new to this site and am looking for some other perspectives I guess. This is going to turn out to be very long so I apologize in advance. I was diagnosed with ADD about 2 years ago. I started taking medication and was going to counseling with a therapist who specializes in the disorder. When I was first diagnosed, my husband was deployed. When he returned home a few months later I became pregnant with our daughter. Because of the pregnancy, I was taken off of my meds and have yet to go back on. I have been nursing my daughter and didn't think I could go back on.

Not sure if this topic should go in this forum or not.......Anyway, if it needs to be moved I guess it will be.....

To the list of fantastic ADHD books already recommended, I'd like to add one not specific to, but perhaps helpful for ADHD challenges: "Positivity..." by Dr. Barbara Fredrickson. The author explains the results of her studies (she's at UNC) and others that support how a certain ratio of positivity to negativity (not a "Polly Anna" response) is effective for expanding one's opportunities for success. I am not a scientist and have not read the referenced studies, but it seems worth further exploration.

I am frustrated dealing with my husband who has both ADD and depression (both treated with meds). He has this "I can't" mentality that drives me nuts. Whenever I need/want him to do somthing that's outside his comfort zone he'll say he can't.