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My husband and I determined months ago to move. However, I can't get him to help me look for a place. The property management places around here only work 9-5 Monday through Friday and he refuses to do anything during those hours (his work hours)

I understand the importance of his job, but he takes no lunch, although I'm sure the other employees there do, and I'm sure they handle their personal business. He doesn't want me to rent a house without him seeing it (I don't want to do that either), but that sticks us in this house we both hate.

Yet another holiday has passed and I find myself saddened and frustrated.  My husband who has suspected he had add for many years was diagnosed about 4 or 5 years ago since then he has tried various meds and is currently taking adderall.  One of our biggest issues is holidays.  Most of the time he shuts down and in turn makes things a negative experience for all around him.  The only time he is happy is when he takes an extra dose of adderall or is drinking during a holiday.

   I think it may be possible that while my husband knows he has ADD he doesn't think that it affects him much or that he can control it, like he is in denial. The more I read about people's stories/struggles with this disorder the more I recognize similarities in Rick. I email him these stories and I ask, is this how you feel?

Am I totally a idiot for not seeing what was going on for all these years? Can I really make up for all the damage that is done? Am I even truley getting better or is that just my way of trying to make myself feel better?  These are quesion's that  I have been fighting with for quite some time now and its a sad fact that a 38 year old man has his wife tell him she has no respect for him and that there marriage might end because not only the ADHD but me personally.

Just today we recieved a letter from my husbands employer stating that he failed to take part in some extended training (he is a teacher and this is continuing education points). They are deducting over $400 from his next pay check, a much needed amount.

His response: "I guess I screwed up. But if I wasn't distracted from all the crap going on this year I probably would have remembered to go"

I live in the NYC area and was curious if there are any ADD support groups for non-ADD partners who are in a relationship with an ADD partner -- much like Al-Anon.

Books and blogs and literature is good, but it'd be great to connect with some people on a personal level.

Thanks.

I will be married two years in August.

another great resource:

www.ADDerworld.ning.com

this site was created by a man-managing his ADD/ADHD-to result such a lifestyle that he's written 2 books. 'very powerful-and inspiring resource.

I'll keep this as clean as possible.  When it comes to having sex with AD/HD, am I the only one that has troubles finishing?  When I was younger, it was cool to last and last and last, but as I have gotten older...and now that I am married, I wish I could hurry up!

I find myself getting distracted.  It wasn't until recently that I put two and two together and realized that the AD/HD, not some god given sexual gift, was most likely the reason for this "problem".

Any hints, help, ideas?  Can you relate?  Anyone?

I don't know where to begin to talk about a book I read the last two days.  it is called "Refuse to Choose" by Barbara Sher.  She's been helping people for years to find their passions in life and to act on them.  She goes into great detail about people she terms