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Been married four years. Any other "double winners" in here?

My husband has adhd. He does not take his medications. He constantly accuses me (and gets so frustrated/mad at me) of not telling him things that I definitely told him or claims something didn't happen that did. He says I have the bad memory. When I show him proof (emails with dates, screenshots, txts etc), he refuses to acknowledge  it and still ignores/avoids me. He sometimes says I live in my own reality I make up and he makes me question my sanity but I really do think it's HIM. I've been asking to go to therapy for two years now, or have him go, but he refuses.

So, for some time now I have been dealing with my wife and her ADHD. Lately I have noticed that we have been getting into more and more arguments by the week. The arguments always start off as innocent conversations. Somehow someway she redirects the conversation to something that has happened in the past. I'm not one for bringing the past up because it belongs where it is; in the past! When bringing the past up, the stories always seem to change when she she is telling it. She begins to tell lies about what actually happened and it pisses me off when she does it.

Let me preface this by saying I was a fireman / paramedic for 26 years and have seen every and any type of mental health problem known to man. Or so I thought. ( I have a son with ADHD and adult ADHD is a whole different ballgame folks , my ex made my son look like he was on valium she was so over the top).

Folks I admire anyone willing to endure a marriage with a partner with ADHD. I recently dated someone with it and this message board enlightened me. I broke it off.

I am 45 years old and married with combination type ADHD with anxiety.  My marriage is falling apart and when we talk I can't control my symptoms and it is pushing my wife further away.  I can't remember dates and names,  emotional outbursts,  crying,  inability to sit still during conversations,  and having to take too many breaks to composer myself in order to try and have a conversation.

Has anyone ever tried teaching Positive Psychology skills to an ADHD adult, particularly to mitigate the Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria? Given how the ADHD brain works how long does it take for new habits to form? Does it pay to try and share critical thinking skills or cognitive behavior changes? Even if the ADHD person is willing, does their brain have the capacity?  Thank you for those who have gone before me and can share their results. God bless you for trying.

Hi everyone,

Hi, my husband has been diagnosed with ADD. He's in denial of the impact that it's had on my life and believes it just means he has difficulty with concentration. He has decided to do CBT treatment to help him manage his ADD. Does anyone if these treatments improve the emotional aspects, impulsivity, flare ups, mood swings etc?

Hi all, 

Recently I feel like the imbalances in our relationship are starting to cause some serious damage that I worry may become irreversible. 

My husband left me impulsively without a moments notice, to cover up his impulsivity he fabricated the split was amicable. It's so hard to get even the closest friends and family to understand and give support, unless someone has lived with a person with ADHD it so hard to relate. I accommodated him so much because his solution to problems is to threaten divorce and pack his bags and run. My husband is ADD not hyperactive so he comes across so passive, pleasant and patient. He doesn't even have to explain himself people just assume I'm the problem and reassure him that his completely fine.