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My husband and I have been married for ten years. He has a 14 year old daughter from a previous marriage, I have a son of the same age, and we have a 6 year old daughter together. He is not taking any form of medication or therapy.

Over the time we have been together, it has been a struggle for me to deal with his lack of reliability and inconsistency and it has gotten progressively worse. I no longer feel happy in our marriage.

I wanted to reach out today and give you all a big virtual hug.

All of your posts are hitting home with me, especially the ones where your spouses recall things differently from what they actually were. I had this happen with my ex-husband.

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Hi, friends. This forum has been a great support over the years. You might recall that my ex (we've been divorced for four years) is in the "likes to do things himself, doesn't want to spend money" camp. I'm dealing with one of the results of this today. I'm finally getting the gutters replaced on the house, which I got in the divorce. The gutters are in terrible shape (not just my opinion; I heard one of the workers say this), and the project will cost about $6,500. Ouch! This has revived my anger at my ex a little bit, but so far, I'm doing relatively well all things considered.

"If you love someone else more than yourself, you will always compromise too much, ignore the red flags, get hurt, and lose yourself in your relationships."

I know that my husband has ADHD, but he does not. I am trying to figure out how to talk to him about this diagnosis. I can say he has it with confidence because I am a psychotherapist. This only makes it harder to talk to him about social and emotional issues because he does not want me using my "therapy" on him. How do I get this information into his brain? It is at the core of our marriage difficulties and after 35+ years of marriage, I am not sure we will make it one more.

I had to pick our daughter up from school with a fever and take her to see the pediatrician.  We were the only ones there. 

He came out and said that I really have my hands full, with our daughter (who has had several psychiatric hospitalizations recently), our son, AND MY WIFE.  He said something about how much she fought with our daughter when she brought her in last week but then said he was not going to comment further.

Hi everyone,

This forum has been life-saving for me and wanted to share my story, as I found so many relatable posts here. When I first started drafting this post, I wrote in the subject "In or out = ?" That is no longer so.

Hey all. I will BOLD relevant info for the skim readers. Keen for help from non ADHD and ADHD participants. 

Currently reading "The Couple's guide to Thriving with ADHD" by Melissa Orlov & Nancie Kohlenberger

I am not married to my partner but I have severely been rubbing her the wrong way with this reoccurring issue. I am a 27 year old male and she is a 21 year old woman for reference. 

I'm the non-ADHD spouse. A little backstory, we've been married for two years and I've dealt with a lot of his impulsiveness, rage, mood swings, and general irresponsibility. These things caused me to create unhealthy coping mechanisms and dynamics and earlier this year our relationship was pure chaos. So we went to counseling and things started to get better. But recently things are crazy again. 
 

My husband is diagnosed with ADHD. I do not have it. I would very much appreciate advice on this: