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Hi everyone

I wanted to introduce myself.

My name is Phillipa, I am 62, been married 42 (!) years to M.

Our son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 8 and has since (through treatment) become an incredible, high-functioning and happy adult.

Somehow we never got a formal diagnosis for M. although the signs were always there (inability to keep a job, distracted, no empathy, very argumentative, impuslive, blurts out inappropriate things, lies, hyper-focuses on computer...)

Does anyone have any advice on addictions and ADHD.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD. He's always been chaotic, disorganised, forgetful, late didn't make the best choices ect. But before we had kid's it wasn't a huge deal for me.  Don't get me wrong, he did massive damage to our relationship, but it wasnt a life or death thing. He was very happy, fun, laid back, and didn't have a problem with me being the organized one. I was young and naive. 

Hi, I'm new here. I've been married to an ADHD wife for almost 10 years and never sought support before, but I feel like I need someone I can talk to. Maybe it will help.

Hi everyone! I joined this blog earlier this year, and have been wanting to post for a while! Earlier this year, my bf was diagnosed with ADHD. I'm an MFT Trainee, and I'm the one who encouraged him to get assessed. I'm surprised it took me so long to connect the dots! 

I've been reading your posts from over the years, and I'm wondering how you are doing these days, post-divorce.  I hope you are well.  

The reality of a mind that can't function normally means mental illness....It always has, and probably always will...The reason I got into this marriage, is the same reason I"ve had so much mental suffering in this marriage....Ignorance concerning mental illness, (add) and the refusal (for years) to realize it's going to play a role in my marriage relationship...A role that hinders or stops most every aspect of normal husband and wife interaction....I"ve lived it going on 13 years, and I've read the stories from many of you....It's always the same....The scale, mild to seve

Hello, my husband was diagnosed with ADHD in March 2018. He was prescribed adderall and has taken it daily since his diagnosis. 

My husband was diagnosed with diabetes about four or five years ago. I don't know if this is the reason for low sex drive or not, but when I try to talk to him about it he blames it on not wanting to have sex with me because not interested in me anymore. Due to my forgetfulness of items that i have forgotten to do, packed in his lunch, errands I didn't run, didn't pick up on knowing what types of things, food or whatever he would like for me to buy for him etc. We have been together for twenty years and there are times that I didn't think we would make it. I miss intimacy.

Hi all,
I realize this is a forum for addressing ADHD-related problems in marriages, and maybe venting a little, too. I'm curious, though — with hindsight, would you have gotten into your relationship? Is there enough positive to outweigh the negative? If, at the beginning, you'd had all the insights, tools, strategies, understanding, etc., you gained later in the relationship, do you think that would have put you on a happy(-enough?) road to choose to travel it? Or would you have found a different relationship?