For those with ADHD, impulsivity, high energy, boredom and a need to connect may be getting in the way of staying safe. Mixed opinions about whether you need to self-isolate or wear masks aside, sometimes it’s actually about ADHD.
It's important to find time for building stronger connections with your partner, but even with good intentions this is just plain hard to do! When we are busy we often just respond to what's hot. It's stressful to feel as if “urgency” is the criteria that runs your life. And, quite frankly, “urgent” says little about value to you, just timeliness. The result is that we often leave the less urgent, but more valuable marriage and family parts of our lives behind. Here are seven very specific tips for reclaiming your marriage and family time in the face of this pressure.
One of the major points my wife, Sue, and I stress in our new book, Married to Distraction, is the critical element of time. People take time for granted. But without time, there is no attention, and with attention there is no communication or empathy, and without communication and empathy there is no connection, and without a connection there is no play, and without play there is no fulfilling intimacy, romance, or love. We often say that play is the main action of love. But it all depends upon the previous steps, starting with time.
Married to Distraction: Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Distraction, by Ned and Sue Hallowell, with Melissa Orlov, is being released on March 16th. It's available for pre-order right now, and one of Dr.