The New York Times recently published an article about the importance of having conversations about how money is being spent before you're in an emotional situation. This only makes sense to me - it's just another version of "coordinate, don't dictate" that comes with partnership rather than the parent/child version of dictating or delegating. Conversations around money, if done right, can also be a time to dream a little bit, especially if you're talking about travel, vacation or retirement. Even if you are fighting, can you find common ground in shared dreams of a possible future together? Stephanie Sarkis is also a good resource if you are thinking about money...she is the author of ADD and Your Money (her site is here).