Drained mom of ADD son and husband
I just discovered this forum after reading the book.
I just discovered this forum after reading the book.
I'm new to this whole thing and my husband is not being treated. I dont think he thinks it's a problem but after my counselor suggested he might have ADD which he had as a kid and he hates meds, but when researching ADD and marriage I'm like a lightbulb went off. The whole hyperfocus dating where I felt like a queen and now am soooooo lonely and so hopeless and just frickin overwhelmed. i have no idea where to start and I'm so over it. I know there's a person I loved somewhere in there but I'm tired and feel almost done. In addition to the ADD we also are dealing with a blended family.
I'm new here and finally got the courage to create an account and post. I'm 33 and was diagnosed 3 years ago with ADHD-C. I've been with my SO for 15 years now and this explained so many of our issues. We have worked through a ton of our struggles but there is one struggle that I can't seem to get past.
Acceptance. Acceptance of my limitations.
I'm sharing this here not because I expect advice but because I know that many of you will understand my experience.
"Next time you disagree, I encourage you to overtly seek the ‘and’ in your conversation."
I felt my body unclench itself reading your thoughts on this. Thanks
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Previously, we have found evidence of our daughter not taking her medications, including pills lying around the house. Today, my wife told me that she has not be taking them for months. She usually puts it in her mouth, takes a drink, and shows up her empty mouth. It seems she has somehow managed to avoid swallowing them.
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DH had ADHD. He is on meds and really trying to work on himself. He works from home which makes it difficult for him to focus sometimes (working from an office is not up for discussion). Sometimes when I need his attention he will say things like "I need 5 minutes to focus on this first." I try to respect that and give him his space to focus on what he was working on before I came in. However, when a half hour goes by and I am still waiting, I get frustrated. If I try to remind him that I am waiting or go back into his office he gets angry and feels pressured.