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What are some thoughts here about "best case scenario" for having a life with as little chaos as possible within the context of an ADHD marriage?  What are  some things that have caused the rest of you to struggle the most?  How could it be better?  If you knew what you know now AND STILL CHOSE TO MARRY YOUR PARTNER what would you do differently?  I will start:  I would not have children or many pets.  I would have one, maybe two cats.  As for my children, they are my world and I absolutely would not live without them now that they are here, but bringing them into the world with a spouse wh

Before I got home last night, my wife reported having conflicts with out daughter, so they were both in bad moods and primed.

Our daughter had not eaten her school lunch and wanted to drink her Yoo-Hoo.  My wife put her foot down and there wsa screaming and stamping. 

I stumbled across this site this evening and read through many of the posts in the forum. Wow. I read a lot of experiences of women who are struggling in really painful situations with their spouses. Reading through this forum, I felt very sad. I felt sad about the pain and frustration that so many women are feeling in their marriages to ADHD husbands, and I felt sad about the generalizations I saw some of you make about people with ADHD. I wanted to throw in my two cents. 

One reality that really hit me recently, (in my own relationship) isn't about what has been said....It's about what hasn't been said....Most of the posts I've written and the majority of the one's I have read, have the same theme....Negative behaviors and little to no communication....Most all the partners who post here are asking for (me included) our spouse's to set us down, look us dead in the eye's and calmly reinforce their love and commitment to us....Then get up and calmly live it out....(That's never happened here)

https://www.additudemag.com/too-much-drama-relationships/

i think many of us can relate to this article. 

Has anyone been able to get disability for adult ADHD?

Hello everyone,

I'm new to this forum and have spent the last week reading posts that have been an eye opener for me - Thank you to everyone that has posted, I have leant a lot from you.

My partner has non medicated ADHD and I am struggling with two things in particular. Childish behavior and blurting things out without thinking.

Finding this has been an absolute God send and my brain is going crazy trying to get all the info i can!  I've been married for 22 yrs and have 4 children.  My 2nd born has been diagnosed with adhd and depression at 14yo.  My husband always said he has the attention span of a gnat and that he knows he's selfish but doesn't mean to be hurtful.  I've learned to not rely on things he says because he says 

I thought I would add to the Progress you are Making and Hope topic as it seems like I do a lot of 'bitching' on here and turning to the forum when things are at the breaking point, instead of when they are positive and progressing well. A few things: 

My husband was diagnosed 9 years ago and it has been a battle, both for him and our family.

HIs medications have changed a few times over the years, i don't have specifics on the treatment, all he asked me was to let him know if significant changes in his behavior happened. They have over the last 2-3 years: anger, impulsivity, negative mindset that makes him feel attacked even though there is nothing of the sort. I have mentioned it a few times but nothing changed.