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Hello,

How have others overcome the ADHD spouse feeling like the non-ADHD spouse is putting them on probation?  My ADHD wife keeps saying it feels like that, which makes me feel horrible, but I'm also exhausted with the clutter, forgetfullness, lack of responsibility and mistakes (many that cost us financially).  We've been married 17 years and have two sons ages 14 and 16. It kills me to think of breaking up the family over forgetfullness or household clutter. I feel my kids will blame me.

You all know from my previous posts what a mess my ex's life is and that it's been that way for a very long time. 

Well I just found out that he bought the new girlfriend a diamond solitaire ring that she is now sporting on her left ring finger.  

Yet he is telling his family oh, we're not engaged.. it's just a gift...

Just two months ago he told his son and daughter in law that he didn't want to introduce this woman to them because he wasn't sure it would last and that he didn't want to be tied down to anything. 

Guys, I need a pep talk.  My unmedicated ADHD husband was fired from his third job in 6 years on December 29.  We have yet to receive any unemployment despite the state saying it's coming and receiving many letters to that affect.  To his credit he has taken many side jobs and we are not in too bad a shape financially, but we will be if the unemployment does not come through.  He has had two interviews with a good company and it sounds like they may make an offer early next week.

My husband has been diagnosed with ADHD, is 60 & agrees he may have it, but will not medicate.  Our marriage of 28yrs has always been a struggle due to his ADHD.  Last year he betrayed me by cheating on me online.  I was devastated  and did not understand his behavior at all.  It was way out of character for him.  We have been going thru counseling and he said he felt I did not love him any longer.  I know at the time I was requesting more of him in the relationship and he felt rejected.  I recently have been reading about RSD and ADHD.

In just the last few days I have come to realize that my spouse suffers from ADHD.  Having been with him for a very long time, so many things make sense now.  This situation has caused so much trouble and anger on my part.  He is frustrated and doesn't understand me either.

Hello,  My husband and I have been married for 9 years, together for 14.  We have a 9 year old daughter.  He is undiagnosed ADHD and I am the non-ADHD partner.  We are currently enrolled in the self study seminar.  I just wanted to share our story and see if it sounds familiar to anyone.

Basically, I no longer feel like I have a sense of self.  I am very lonely.  I have been on medication for anxiety and depression but neither seemed to help.  We try to exercise and eat right.  But I feel like the way we live our lives have caused a lot of chaos.

I'm kind of in shock right now.  Not sure what to think or do.  My husband and I have always loved each other very much.  That has never changed.  However, there have been problems.  Most of which I have received the blame for.  And I'm not here to say that nothing is my fault.  I came into this marriage with some issues from the past, but my husband has conveniently pointed to them in order to justify his own behavior.

Hello -

I really need help in understanding how to resolve this ever-ending conflict with my husband - I feel that I have made every attempt to find peace and acceptance of the limitations of my marriage, but I just can't get my heart to fall in line.

Our son, 15, can be quite difficult.  He wanted to go over a friend's house and play videogames after school today BUT he has not caught up on school work and cleaned his room.  He also stayed up late.  My wife got into an argument with him about it this morning.  (He claims he is going to support his friend's father, who will commit suicide if he does not go.)  At one point, my wife says he hurt her by grabbing her wrist.  I did not see what happened.