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Hi:  I got on this site about 6 years ago in desperation and isolation.  I've been married to an otherwise wonderful man for almost 23 years.  When we had twins 17 years ago his ADD exploded.  He and I are the exact example of a couple in "The ADD Effect on Marriage."  We have both been aware of our situation since discovering this site and these books.  Armed with that knowledge, I took him to the Mayo Clinic, have arranged therapy with 5 different marriage counselors over the years and have made myself crazy.

I've been in a relationship with someone with ADHD for a little over a year now, and all I can say is that I'm tired. We've broken up and gotten back together 4 times now. It's a cycle: he gets sick of the routine we're in, he wants to break free, so he breaks up with me. Then, he misses me, and comes running back. And I take him back every time because I love him so so much, and when we're together, it's the most magical feeling ever because he's so focused on us. But I can't help thinking, will we last?

My husband has ADHD. For most of our marriage I've been the breadwinner in our family - bringing almost 80% of our income. I am ambitious - I work hard and I love doing well financially. When I am doing well, I love to share the fruits of my labor. I love being generous and having nice things. My husband, not so much. He's had a few jobs since we've been together, but they are usually low-wage jobs - and none have lasted. The last job he had - he was demoted from a supervisor to a delivery driver. I can tell it really hurt his ego and he ended up quitting without a back up plan.

I am a long time reader of this forum as it helped me understand the challenges I had in my on & off relationship with an ADHD man in the last 3 years.

I wanted to take a moment, and share my appreciation to this forum and all those who have patiently listened to me on my own journey of discovery.  And actually listening to me, which at my request, asked to allowed the opportunity to do this by myself?  At times I was lost, and had no idea of what I was doing, and I times I followed those of you who have shown me kindness and appreciation and your Love and support.  It my own way, and without knowing exactly what I needed, was I now realize that being supportive of me, was simply allowing me this opportunity?  I have vented, and spewed, an

Unfortunately, the same cycle has come around but I now have a different perspective entirely.  My wife, as I have become almost use to by now, has said she is leaving again.  This has happened so many times before, that those words means next to nothing to me?  This time however, I actually said "Okay, if that is what you decided to do, there is nothing I can do to stop you"  That was in effect, me agreeing with her decision and now I am brought into it "as if"....I want this too.  In fact, it's now come full circle back around where I'm the one who wants her to leave?  I guess, allowing h

So dr ordered focalin xr few days ago for my bf just dx age 50. Has not started it yet. I guess not ready. Did ask him reply. Something about bugging him maybe. Scared I get it. I read little about. He did not want to. He does have a vice or two   Hopeful start soon and progress

I  have been with my boyfriend for 18 yrs we have son 14 I knew for years my boyfriend had trust issues his previous wife cheated on him with his friend.  Which was nd still isiss  always being accused of doing something that I didn't do say cheating on him or whatever I never have then he say why you getting so defensive which made him think due to guilt no it s due too innonencee   constantly trying to defend myself the issue would resolve only when he was done with it angry person name calling short tempered outbursts and always wondering if you got his back and am  I loyal.

I just want to say that I'm glad I found this website as I found the posts and articles here are quite helpful,

I really would like some advice to understand my situation better, as I am very confused at this point because I do not know what is the right thing to do.

I feel I am at a loss for words with my boyfriend and I need some insight into how ADHD may be affecting my relationship. 

Almost a year ago I began dating my boyfriend exclusively. We had been friends for a couple of years prior and I would question his promptness to events and even questioned if I felt I would be able to be in a relationship with someone who is always late. He was so sweet and genuine and I believed he adored me so dealing with his chronic lateness seemed worth it to me.