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I am reading one of Melissa Orlov's books; I am brand new to this forum and would greatly appreciate any advice you might have for me. My husband (w/ ADHD) and I have been together for a year and a half, but we grew up together, so I've known him most of my life. I am completely in love with him and always have been. He is brilliant, loving, and my best friend. I am a teacher and the sole breadwinner.

If you are struggling as I have to find emotional, mental, and spiritual well being...You may be stuck in an illusion or a place of partial reality. This has followed me since my childhood and surfaces in most all of my relationships. It is reversible, but, it must be recognized, and dealt with.

I have question, Im 44 wife with add and have had PTSD for three yes, husband is 44 has ADHD, he refuses to negotiate or compromise about anything, he with holds money, we have lost everything, my car was repoed 6 weeks ago, he stated no intentions of plan for me vehicle to drive, we have nine ur old daughter, I caught him with porn on his phone, he still gets defensive if I hold him accountable, he does not ask my input about any decisions he makes and says that in order to repair our marriage , " he needs me to respect him and fu-- him frequently with enthusiasm ".

ADHD in both of us ?

Gosh.  This is a quote from Melissa Orlov, taken from another thread on this forum:

. . . . . . .you are better able to respond to her when she is at her wit's end...but from her perspective, that is likely too little, too late.  No one loves being in a relationship where you get the best from a partner when you've had it.  The road back, in that instance, is long. . . . . . . 

I have a story to tell but I'm not sure how to tell it? If I tell it from the ADHD perspective...it will sound as if I am making myself out to be the hero of my own story and that's not why I sharing my experience. Right now I'm exhausted, frustrated and angry. This is a cry for help and I'm the worst at asking for it. I apologize up front for my inability to do this correctly. Underneath those surface emotions...and I feel deeply hurt and troubled and fair amount of of resentment for so many reasons I don't know where or how to begin.

This is not about ADHD or ADD.  But I am trying to figure out what is wrong in my life by journaling here.  Lauren's post made me start thinking about this topic.  

I was attracted to bad boys. A number of them.  They are always "cute" and not boring in some ways, even if it is just their over-confident smiles and flirty ways.  They are fun and impulsive and made us laugh.  Sometimes these bad boys have nice cars and muscles and a devil may care attitude that, to a young woman, seems to be the guy of her dreams.  

I used to post here when I was married to an ADD man. We are thankfully divorced. He still drives me crazy sometimes because we co-parent, but I am getting used to it.