I am 90% certain my soon-to-be ex has ADHD. Our daughter was diagnosed, years ago. There is evidence of the anger and anxiety that seem to go along with ADHD, in him. All the hints were there for him to be self-aware of his ADHD (i.e. hello? your daughter has been diagnosed?) but his ego was too big for him to have any self-awareness. He had an affair and now wants a divorce.
Hi, this is my first post.
"Just accept it and move on", "do you", "lower your expectrations". What are these? All things I preach about to myself and others when you don't get what you signed on for from your spouse that has ADHD. Yesterday, the other girl showed up, the one that is still human and wants to be nurtured. I send him the usual text in the morning that has to do with something domestic, his reminder, "please deposit the weekly money into the account" since he won't do a recurring deposit. Never get a response. In fact, I never get any communication all day, no text, call, nothing.
People spend a lots of money after the marriage has been consummated in an effort to quote "Get along". Why not do the work prior to getting to close to another person. Which, my guess,
drops your ability to make an educated choice by any where from 20% to 95% depending on your make up.
Since people or all different it is probably better to have an idea of what type person you match up with the best, so you goal of a workable and satisfying marriage relationship want be hindered by so many differences...
My boyfriend of 1 yr (we're in our 40s) wants to keep searching just in case he finds a woman who might give him instant "in love" feelings. He says he wants to make sure he doesn't make a mistake by not continuing to look in case our relationship isn't the one. We have a great relationship otherwise...good communication, deep talks, romance, loving eye contact, great physical intimacy, honesty, and a lot in common. He says he loves me and wants us to be together but still wants to keep looking "just in case"
My husband was diagnosed fairly recently with ADHD, but upon speaking with a friend, we somehow arrived at an idea that perhaps schizophrenia was a more apt label. We looked at each other horrified and upon looking up symptoms of disorganized and simple schizophrenia, it seems to fit, especially with a peak age of 25 (he's 28 now, and things have gotten considerably worse over the years). However, a lot of the symptoms overlap. If there's been psychosis (hallucinations), I haven't been told about it, but my husband is very closed off from me and others.
Anyone experienced symptoms of extreme hoarding behaviour in spouse with ADHD?
I'm new here, been reading for a long time but this is my first time posting. I'm in a similar situation as most of the other stories I've read. My husband of 18 years has been on medication for ADD for 5 years and has recently been diagnosed with Depression. Although he does take his medication he's been in denial about both and prefers to blame every problem in his life/our life together on me or take it out on me, it depends on the day.
Well mine seems to spend more time making me feel like an idiot who can't do a simple task! If I don't understand what he's asking me to do within 5 seconds he gets in a huff and gets angry at me. I couldn't understand what item he wanted me to unplug and then plug in another thing. Got all uppity with me. He wanted me to hold a board for him while he used an electric saw to cut through it. He complained that I was holding it at an angle rather than straight and then told me to move to the left and when I did he screamed "the LEFT" I said I did and he goes "No MY left".
We have a dynamic I'm trying to shift. He gets anxious quickly over things, and I can't always predict what does it. Last night we had a debate over astrology, and then we had a snack in bed. Our conversation during the snack was pretty normal. He went to put the food back, and when he returned I had my legs in his way playfully. He moved them without comment. He will be playful with the children but rarely with me even though I've told him how much I appreciate the levity. We had a stressful evening the previous day so I was hoping to create some playfulness, and there was nothing.
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