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Is it ADHD or Schizophrenia?

My husband was diagnosed fairly recently with ADHD, but upon speaking with a friend, we somehow arrived at an idea that perhaps schizophrenia was a more apt label. We looked at each other horrified and upon looking up symptoms of disorganized and simple schizophrenia, it seems to fit, especially with a peak age of 25 (he's 28 now, and things have gotten considerably worse over the years). However, a lot of the symptoms overlap. If there's been psychosis (hallucinations), I haven't been told about it, but my husband is very closed off from me and others.

His anger is getting the best of me.....

I'm new here, been reading for a long time but this is my first time posting. I'm in a similar situation as most of the other stories I've read. My husband of 18 years has been on medication for ADD for 5 years and has recently been diagnosed with Depression. Although he does take his medication he's been in denial about both and prefers to blame every problem in his life/our life together on me or take it out on me, it depends on the day.

Shouldn't your spouse be the one to make you feel good, not bad, about yourself?

Well mine seems to spend more time making me feel like an idiot who can't do a simple task! If I don't understand what he's asking me to do within 5 seconds he gets in a huff and gets angry at me. I couldn't understand what item he wanted me to unplug and then plug in another thing. Got all uppity with me. He wanted me to hold a board for him while he used an electric saw to cut through it. He complained that I was holding it at an angle rather than straight and then told me to move to the left and when I did he screamed "the LEFT" I said I did and he goes "No MY left".

Told him I needed to be held, he rolled over and went to sleep.

We have a dynamic I'm trying to shift. He gets anxious quickly over things, and I can't always predict what does it. Last night we had a debate over astrology, and then we had a snack in bed. Our conversation during the snack was pretty normal. He went to put the food back, and when he returned I had my legs in his way playfully. He moved them without comment. He will be playful with the children but rarely with me even though I've told him how much I appreciate the levity. We had a stressful evening the previous day so I was hoping to create some playfulness, and there was nothing.

Feeling like you have no voice

I had been with my SO just shy of 5years, and was diagnosed with ADHD last December (we officially ended it about 2 months ago, I am in the process of moving out)

I am usually a hopeful person,and for a long time I held hope it would work. In part it was for us, and in part it was becuase we have a son together. The last two weeks have pretty much depleted any hope I had for a reconciliation down the line. 

Love Is Really All That Matters

George Vaillant, Harvard psychiatrist, directed a study from 1972 to 2004. He concluded: Love Is Really All That Matters: "It may seem obvious, but that doesn’t make it any less true: Love is key to a happy and fulfilling life. There are two pillars of happiness. One is love, the other is finding a way of coping with life that does not push love away. A man could have a successful career, money and good physical health, but without supportive, loving relationships, he wouldn't be happy."

He sucks the my joy of giving right out of me

He sucks the my joy of giving right out of me. I am a nurturer. My mother and my sisters are as well. We have been married 25 years and I have always had to ask for a massage or foot rub or for a favor and most times I can see a slight look of "oh God" in his face. When I ask him for a favor or a massage it's because I am in severe pain. That being said, the other day, he was complaining about how his knee and feet hurt. We were both a t a three day convetion and were both pretty tired and achey.

ADHD Marriage - Doomed?

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, and about six months ago he was diagnosed with ADHD and placed on an Adderall regimen. He's been reluctant to talk about it, so I've only just now gotten around to researching. But now that I'm looking into it I'm finding all kinds of horror stories about partners becoming completely uninterested after marriage ends the "hyperfocus courtship," partners having emotional or sexual affairs when they meet someone new and shiny, or partners ignoring the children.

Random Babble - Nervous Chatter

I am sick of all the random babble and nervous chatter from my H.  Not only is it constant, but often he'll slow his speech to a crawl-pace.  If I get impatient and finish his sentence or guess the question and answer it, he'll get mad and say, "let me talk," or he'll sometimes be dishonest and say, "that's not what I was going to say,"  ( I know when he's being dishonest because he'll twist what he claims that he was going to say into something non-sensical, just so that he can complain that I wrongly finished his sentence or answered his Q before he finished.

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