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The opportunity was given to my husband for an all expenses paid trip out of the country for our family of four (a gift from his parents). Speaking with him about the trip was as follows: (I promise this is not an exaggeration, I know it sounds ridiculous)

 Tuesday: him: do you want to go?  Me: yes   Him: I don't want to go with my family so I don't want to go...

Wednesday: him: do you want to go?  Me: yes   Him: I don't want to but you can go okay ask my parents..

Signing separation papers. January 28, 2015.  I cannot move out, as our financial situation is not in a place where that would work out. If he moved out, I would be stuck in the "physical mess" of my spouses hoarding, and all his business materials are here. I am listening to God. God will not, and has not given me the the word that I can get divorced.

And not because I promised in my vows, nor will be the martyr of believing God made this mess, so he must want me in it. I clearly believe God is chasing after my spouse.

First of all, thank you to all the contributors to this site and forum.  It has helped me so much to read and relate - although I haven't written until now, I've been reading for quite awhile, and it's really really helped me understand things... 

My husband, who has ADHD and other issues, lives with and is caregiver for his parents.  He has been doing so most of the time since September 2011.  The arrangement was supposed to be temporary; he said he would look for a permanent, good-paying job while at his parents' home.  He never has.  (I think he agreed to the arrangement so that he'd have a socially admirable reason for not looking for work and for being away from me.)  During most of this time, even though our relationship was and continues to be rocky, I've tried to offer my husband moral support as far as the caregiving goes.

I'm new to the forum but recognize shades of my domestic partner in all of your postings. He has the inattentive form of ADHD - the kind where he is completely uncommunicative. Like everyone else the relationship started out amazing - he was sweet, kind , thoughtful, I was fooled into thinking he was the kind of man I could marry. Of course, the second we moved in together he became a completely different person. He never even told me he has ADHD until I figured it out and confronted him. Even then he refuses to discuss it.

I am not married and I hope it's ok to ask this question here.  I've been dating someone about 6 months and things are wonderful.  She shared that she has ADHD/ADD so I am trying to understand how that might impact our relationship.  What advice/resources might you share with a newbie to this world?

So, my ex is ADD (inattentive). He won't accept it, nor do anything to improve his symptoms. In fact, just the opposite. He drives me insane, even though he has one of the biggest hearts. There is no hope for reconciliation, and his ADD and other issues have left me scarred. 

With that said, the only man I am interested in right now is ADD. He accepts it, jokes about it, takes meds for it, and has put things in place to help manage it. I am scared to death of his ADD, but I am giving him a chance. 

<p>I don&#39;t know what to do! I can NEVER have a chill/calm moment or event with my wife!! She&#39;s always tense and bitchy!! What the hell do I do!? We&#39;ve been married for a year and a half and I&#39;m only 23! I have no idea how to handle her. When we first met she was taking something for it and I had no clue about ADHD! Roller coaster ride for sure!! HELP!?!</p>

Hi I'm new. I'm 40, dh is 44. We've been married for 15 years. We have 2 sons, 11 and 4. The first 3 years of marriage were bliss. Since then it's been a roller coaster. We separated for a year about 8 years into the marriage after (and during) his torrid affair with a coworker. The newness wore off and we got back together. One great year, we got unexpectedly pregnant and it's been downhill since. Dh lost job 4 years ago and hasn't had a real job since then.