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Hi everyone!  I am new to the site but very familiar with ADHD and the effect it can have on a marriage and partnership as my husband has ADHD.  I will preface this by saying I adore my husband.  Melissa's book helped me a TON to understand why he acts the way he does and says the things he says.  I feel like I am probably one of the only people who understand him...his parents don't even get him.  However, he is brilliant, funny, smart and I love his spontaneity (even though it can drive me crazy too!)

I've just joined this forum, seeking a bit of advice I guess, having just ended a relationship with a man I love. The relationship has only lasted ten months - we've both been married before, and when we met it was just the most incredible joy I've ever experienced. He delighted me - and that's not a phrase I ever would have thought about using to describe a grown man before :) Everything seemed to line up perfectly - our values and lifestyles and dreams were so similar, our kids similar ages. We'd hardly sleep because we had so much to say to each other.

I'm in a bit of a bind here. I got into a fight with my boyfriend earlier this evening and I need to know why ADHD affects relationships. Speedy answers will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks! :-)

My husband and I live apart; he lives with and takes care of his aging parents.  He almost never calls me or responds to emails.  (E.g., in the past 10 weeks, he has called 2 times, I think.)

After our older daughter said she wouldn't be able to come home for Christmas, I said that I'd try to get some family members out to visit her in December.  Other daughter originally was interested but then decided she didn't have sufficient time, with school obligations.  I mentioned to my husband a few weeks ago that a trip was a possibility. 

Hello. 

Any advice welcomed on what to do when my husband is blaming his ADHD for something that is just really shitty behaviour?

I am so incredibly frustrated and don't know what to do, so am looking for advice.  

I am the non-ADHD spouse.  I know my ADHD husband needs me to constantly give him praise and I go out of my way every single day to make sure I do that.  If he actually finishes a project around the house, I go above and beyond praise.  I will literally take pictures of it, email my mother, show him her response about how nice it looks.  I will bring it up for days about how I'm so glad he did it, how it looks great, how I'm proud of him, etc etc.  

My ADHD husband goes away for a few weeks every autumn for some R&R, visiting his friends, chill-out time etc. It is virtually the only time I get to stay home alone and I relish the fact that I can adopt a regular routine and live calmly. For the last few years, hubby has returned in a worse state mentally than before he left.

I'm not sure, but I think my husband has ADHD. He is constantly being aggressive, but in a playful/fake way. We have been married for just over a couple of years but this has been going on for a long time and seems to be getting worse. We both suffer from depression which doesn't help either of us.

He is a bit reckless and rough in general but never did anything to hurt me physically or emotionally when we first started dating.

My (ADHD) husband left nearly four months ago. He filed for divorce in early October and served me with the papers November 1.  Since mid October he has given me just over $100 for child/spousal support. I have retained an attorney and filed for court ordered child and spousal support last week.   He told me that one of the reasons he didn't give me money is so he can rent an apartment.  He is renting a room in a house now.  During this time he has bought our son a new iPhone (and a tablet for himself) and had his computer repaired so our son could have a faster computer for gaming.

I'm not sure, but I think my husband has ADHD. He is constantly being aggressive, but in a playful/fake way. We have been married for just over a couple of years but this has been going on for a long time and seems to be getting worse. We both suffer from depression which doesn't help either of us.

He is a bit reckless and rough in general but never did anything to hurt me physically or emotionally when we first started dating.