My ADHD husband goes away for a few weeks every autumn for some R&R, visiting his friends, chill-out time etc. It is virtually the only time I get to stay home alone and I relish the fact that I can adopt a regular routine and live calmly. For the last few years, hubby has returned in a worse state mentally than before he left.
I'm not sure, but I think my husband has ADHD. He is constantly being aggressive, but in a playful/fake way. We have been married for just over a couple of years but this has been going on for a long time and seems to be getting worse. We both suffer from depression which doesn't help either of us.
He is a bit reckless and rough in general but never did anything to hurt me physically or emotionally when we first started dating.
My (ADHD) husband left nearly four months ago. He filed for divorce in early October and served me with the papers November 1. Since mid October he has given me just over $100 for child/spousal support. I have retained an attorney and filed for court ordered child and spousal support last week. He told me that one of the reasons he didn't give me money is so he can rent an apartment. He is renting a room in a house now. During this time he has bought our son a new iPhone (and a tablet for himself) and had his computer repaired so our son could have a faster computer for gaming.
I'm not sure, but I think my husband has ADHD. He is constantly being aggressive, but in a playful/fake way. We have been married for just over a couple of years but this has been going on for a long time and seems to be getting worse. We both suffer from depression which doesn't help either of us.
He is a bit reckless and rough in general but never did anything to hurt me physically or emotionally when we first started dating.
I've found comfort in these forums but am also realizing the journey I'm on with my husband may be a hopeless cause. Do things change for couples? I went to his doctor with him a month ago. After crying to her that he didn't want to lose his marriage (after 3 affairs, $100k+ racked up in debt, huge tax problems, etc I am so ready to give up) she told him about this site, the books he could read - or even better, listen to on audio - as well other ideas. In the 4 weeks since that appointment he's done nothing.
I had some thoughts I thought would be worth sharing and some new information ( for me at least ) that I feel applies to me very much.....thinking, therefore a good chance of it applying to anyone else here having ADHD
Did Mozart Really Have ADHD? History Of Hyperactivity Off-base, Says Researcher
Hi there from the UK
I would like to hear your experiences about people who have ADD and are passive aggressive.
Is this a common combination? What can I do as a spouse?
My husband and I have finally hit a breaking point in our 12 year marriage.
I'm not new to knowing I have ADD, but going through the medications to help me is some what new. I'm very sensitive to higher doses, so keeping the meds low helps, but I have had a lot of trouble with various meds (anger issues, paranoid, stomach trouble and more). I tried the patches and they have not had the boost I need and the side effects are not good. Now that I'm out of meds, new doc appointment set up, I realize how much worse I am since I was first told I have ADD & tried meds. I'm about 60 pages into the ADHD Effect on Marriage.
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