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Hi Everyone,

 

I need advice on what to do before the book arrives. I stumbled across this site out of pure frustration and feelings of total resentment toward my ADHD husband. I am up, alone, caring for our four month old who is sick. This is our third child. All day long the baby cried or nursed. My husband worked from home today. Not once did he ask to help. He actually asked me "What's for lunch"? And at dinner time, when I asked if he could make dinner he listed the different things he had to do for work first. He's been working 60+ hour weeks.

 

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and married for almost 4 years. We are both 43 years old and have a large blended family. He and I were both previously married to other spouses once before, and we both have children from those marriages. It's a "yours, mine, and ours" situation... I had 4 children from my first marriage, he had 3 children from his first marriage, and together we have 1 child. So we now have a total of 8 children.

Hi.  My husband is once again struggling mightily with depression and other things.  Much of it is situational but it also seems clear to me that my husband feels better and functions better when he's on medications or in therapy and right now he's not doing either, because he chose to stop them.

My husband has been gone for six weeks.  In some ways it has been good.  In some ways not so good.  He has rented a room about 25 minutes away. I met with him today to discuss finances but it turned ugly.  He will not face anything he is doing. Honestly, I don't recognize him.  He has a swagger and an attitude about him that did not exist before.  It is a little creepy to me. He took our son's college money and spent almost all of it. In six weeks.

I have been with my husband for thirteen years and married for five. Reading posts , I think that he has ADHD. He has every symptom mentioned and is getting increasingly difficult to cope with. Due to his angry outbursts, bad behaviour and lack of apologies , I am in constant danger of being isolated from family and friends. He is like Jekyll and Hyde. One minute kind, loving and fun to be with the next angry about everything in his life and blaming everyone else for making him angry. I bear the brunt of it and have gone from being a bright, bubbly , happy person to being a nervous wreck.

Before I met my husband, I felt like a normal, contributing, functioning, clean member of society.  I really liked that.  I paid my bills on time, I loved my house, I was active, I took pride in myself, my house, my work, etc.