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My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and married for almost 4 years. We are both 43 years old and have a large blended family. He and I were both previously married to other spouses once before, and we both have children from those marriages. It's a "yours, mine, and ours" situation... I had 4 children from my first marriage, he had 3 children from his first marriage, and together we have 1 child. So we now have a total of 8 children.

Hi.  My husband is once again struggling mightily with depression and other things.  Much of it is situational but it also seems clear to me that my husband feels better and functions better when he's on medications or in therapy and right now he's not doing either, because he chose to stop them.

My husband has been gone for six weeks.  In some ways it has been good.  In some ways not so good.  He has rented a room about 25 minutes away. I met with him today to discuss finances but it turned ugly.  He will not face anything he is doing. Honestly, I don't recognize him.  He has a swagger and an attitude about him that did not exist before.  It is a little creepy to me. He took our son's college money and spent almost all of it. In six weeks.

I have been with my husband for thirteen years and married for five. Reading posts , I think that he has ADHD. He has every symptom mentioned and is getting increasingly difficult to cope with. Due to his angry outbursts, bad behaviour and lack of apologies , I am in constant danger of being isolated from family and friends. He is like Jekyll and Hyde. One minute kind, loving and fun to be with the next angry about everything in his life and blaming everyone else for making him angry. I bear the brunt of it and have gone from being a bright, bubbly , happy person to being a nervous wreck.

Before I met my husband, I felt like a normal, contributing, functioning, clean member of society.  I really liked that.  I paid my bills on time, I loved my house, I was active, I took pride in myself, my house, my work, etc.

 

To any persons out there who have/or are in therapy of ANY kind, including medical doctors:   Do the doctors or therapists ask for YOUR (the non-ADHD) person's input and/or opinions? And what is their responses? Do they take you seriously? My ADHD husband and I have been in couples therapy a few times, (even one ADHD specialist) but they never EXPLAINED the ins and outs of ADHD. I'd like to hear anyone else's experiences in this. Were there any POSITIVE things coming out of your appointments?

We can't talk anymore, on meds, no meds, morning, noon or night! Why us it so hard to talk to them? Last night I asked him a question and then again the blank state! I said are you thinking or ignoring me? He said a little of both! I said why are you ignoring me? He said I'm not, I'm thinking. And he heard me give another option besides thinking and ignoring! Then this morning,I have to tell you guys my morning, DH was stirring when I got up to get the kids up and ready for school. And of course the new puppy is hungry so I fed her in the crate and he let her run when she was done.

I have been the 'child' in this relationship for 40 years!

I'm not going into details but we both seemed happy.

Now I want to build Independence and Autonomy.

My therapist says 'take charge of more things.'

I have made a list of things I can do.

What else should I be thinking about, directing my efforts toward?