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A quick definition: There is no commitment to a way of thinking and no concern about that lack of commitment.

Combined with ADD:  Picture that lack of an inner core of Who I Am, smothered in a host of defensive behaviors, well practiced, to ward off criticism.

It's a normal stage of development, generally resolved in the teenaged years. I think it's a stage that some ADD simply never gets around to. Too distracted, too... busy fighting off criticism, or self-medicating, or whatever.

I find it difficult to accept a lot of the feedback here.  I'm not religious, so god ain't getting me through this. I also believe in my husband and know full well what he is/isn't capable of. While I concede that ADD impacts on the way we live our lives, as well as accept that, at times, I need to meet him beyond the middle, I have never been the romantic type and I have never expected my husband to fulfill any void in my life. I don't have an unattainable vision of the perfect relationship.

What's up with sudden shifts in reality for ADD?

After about 7 years of battling against what looked like irresponsible, childish behavior, my husband was willing to consider ADD as a possible explanation. At the time, we went together to the general internist and he was given a script for Adderall. At first, it did seem to help. Three years later, that "treatment" is falling horribly short of addressing the issues.

. " I just do my best to pretend to be normal and the adderall helps me fake it better."  a quote taken from ellameno. (HI, ellameno)

Everytime my ADD spouse brings something into the house to show me, he has it behind his back. It could one item in one hand, another item in the other hand. This whole "reveal" could take several minutes.  This is a crazy way of sharing things... to manipulate the whole timing and how it's presented and making me wait until I'm feeling a bit put off by his behavior, including my loss of interest over the *surprise* item.

I'm new to this, so please be patient with me.  My husband appears to have ADHD along with a germ phobia.  It has gotten to the point that I honestly don't know how much longer I can stay in this marriage.  He knows he has a problem, but when I mention getting help, he says I think he's crazy.  We've been married for almost 25 years and its getting progressively worse.  Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!  He has not been officially diagnosed with ADHD, but he definitely has many of the characteristics.

1) He interrupts your conversation

Firstly, my wife can forget sex for weeks and weeks. That alone is enough to make me just not like sex with her, but I get it and am trying to live with being invisible to her.

   After 28 years of marriage my wife was diagnosed with ADHD last year. She found your book and started to read it (lol). A little while later she insisted that I take an online test because she said I was exhibiting signs of ADHD myself. Upon completion, with the answers I gave, it more or less said I was boarder line. After years of not knowing,and reading your book,thru ups and downs,(almost a divorce,and I know by all means I have not always been prince charming) I was glad to find out that I was not the only one Angry and Frustrated with what seems to be her non caring disposition.

I am in the midst of playing hooky. I called in sick to work for 2 days, I told my SOON TO BE EX  that I had to travel for work, I got coverage for my kids and I'm spending the 2nd of 2 glorious days alone. No one is telling me I left this out, forgot to do this, neglected that... I needed to remove myself from my undiagnosed possible-add hubby. I am the daily subject of his negativity- but I'm the one with a job, pension, savings and career. This divorce is taking way too long and is affecting my health- Crohn's disease, shingles, anxiety. These 2 days have been bliss.