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Hi. I'm new to this forum but I'm glad I found it. 

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years and he is the absolute love of my life and the man I will marry and have a family with. We've overcome many obstacles with his ADHD and are still learning to work things out. However, there are a few things that have consistently been a struggle. I'm hoping you all can enlighten me with some other strategies.

I've hesitated from writing my success with managing my ADHD because I could tell that there was something that I was missing and I was right....and today i finally figured out what it was.

hello everyone :)

Long story short:  I have been with an undiagnosed ADHD boyfriend for three years.  I found this forum when one day I googled “chronic irresponsibility.”  I have done everything for my boyfriend.

I've been with my wife now for over 6 years.  We have 2 boys, aged 2 and 5.  When we first met, it was great.  We had lots of time to give towards each other and we loved each other very much.  Over a month ago, my wife told me she is leaving me because of the way things had been for the last 5 years, the way I have been.  This was a slap in the face for me and triggered something in me to start putting things together from my past.  I went to see my doctor and I am now in the process of testing for ADD.  The signs are all there and I admitting that there is something wrong with me.

I forgot this board was here and when I searched my own name I saw how much I used to post!  I am 43 and have been married for 19 years to an ADHD husband.  Our 15 year old son is fine, our 12 year old son has Asperger's, sensory issues and anxiety.  Hubby has had two jobs in the past three years--fired from both.  He has been unemployed since January with nothing on the horizon.  I am not even really sure what happened with this job because the story he told me doesn't make a lot of sense.

I am divorced from my ADDer (my choice). I also have an ADD daughter, although she's not biologically related to my ADD ex-husband. She's the child of my first marriage. Neither first husband nor I have ever been diagnosed with ADD. But my second daughter, although never diagnosed with it, clearly has it. Her son has been diagnosed with it and the similarities are striking.

“Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy - the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.” ~Eric Hoffer~

“Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don’t go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger." ~Chetan Bhagat~

I am surely wondering about direction. I did not get good instructions on marriage by watching my parents. My Dad was a raging alcoholic. Mean words were his backlash at us.