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I'm a 28 y/o husband/new father (first one just a few days ago!!) and have been married for 4 years. I started reading the ADHD Effect and I'm loving it. However, I can't help but feel saddened and frustrated during this otherwise joyous time. I feel like all the progress I felt like I made with my wife's and mine relationship has been crumbled back to square one.

I have been spending a lot of time reading and reviewing comments and experiences on here over the past few weeks. I believe I may have stumbled on to some concepts that may lead to a better understanding of my situation. My wife was diagnosed with ADHD about 2.5 yrs. ago at age 41. You can read my earlier posts for the detailed background if you are interested. I am sharing this now at a very early stage in the hope it may spur some discussion to further develop the concept, or disprove it altogether. Let me know your thoughts.

My husband of 30 years was laid off  five years ago from a job that he never loved, but felt trapped in for 20 years.  He received a diagnosis of ADHD after our son was diagnosed about 9 years ago. He seemed to experience some relief after the diagnosis, and started taking Adderall which he claimed did help him to focus. When he lost his job, he was optimistic that this opportunity (complete with a year of severance pay) would be the chance he needed to reinvent himself, but instead it has turned into a devastating mess.

My husband was diagnosed in march and we have had four years of horrible marriage problems leading up to it.

Since diagnosis we have been on a merry go round where I beg him to face up to the adhd and  create a plan to stop it affecting our marriage, he says he will and then doesn't. 

He is taking the meds but doesnt like them and sometimes doesn't take them (always results in a row before I realise he hasn't taken them). 

This is the first time I have ever posted to a forum.  But after 13 years of marriage, three children, two of which have been diagnosed with ADHD, I am at a loss.  My husband was so loving when we dated.  He seemed to think only of me and of our future together.  But after we got married, we had problems.  Normal things that every couple deals with.  He was used to having a perfectly clean house, dinner on the table every night, etc.  But I came from the opposite kind of home.  I was constantly picking up after him (I thought this was normal although frustrating) and making excuses for him

My husband was diagnosed with severe ADD by 2 Psychiatrists and 1 Clinical Psychologist. He refuses to take medication or go to therapy and said that his personality is such that if a therapist tells him to do something, he will do the opposite. We have two children in elementary school. I am so numb that I can't even cry any more. Crying used to help relieve some of the tension. I struggle with this daily. He is becoming more and more mean. He is using off limits accusations and words in front of our children if I even bring up the subject that he needs help.

My husband (who has ADHD) and I have been married for three years and lived together for 8 and a half. He began a medication regiment last fall after being diagnosed by a specialist a friend of mine referred me to. He did not fight me at all about it and has been very diligent about his medication schedule. He has never had a problem keeping a job, but he's felt that his quality of work has gone u substantially since being on the meds.

I'm 44, been on Methylphenidate and Buproprion for the past couple years, and have tried to make improvements, with varying degrees of success.  But, I still misremember things my wife says, or I even continue to forget conversations.  I made an impulsive decision last year to quit a job where I was miserable without having my new career ready to go.  Not long after that, my wife had a nervous breakdown and was hospitalized briefly.  My leaving my old job was a major factor in her breakdown.

Hi everyone,
I am a 44yr old husband and father of a 3-1/2 yr old little angel. 8 days ago my wife announced that she was done.

Several times over the last several years my wife has asked me to read The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and each time she asked me to read it, I did not read it.