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Hi everyone,
I am a 44yr old husband and father of a 3-1/2 yr old little angel. 8 days ago my wife announced that she was done.

Several times over the last several years my wife has asked me to read The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and each time she asked me to read it, I did not read it.

Hi Everyone,

My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 6.  We have 2 amazing kids (6yr old son and 4yr old daughter). There was signs for ADHD before we were married - in hindsight it was obvious - but I didn't even know what it was.  We just made a great team.  I easily picked up the things he would drop the ball on - very naturally and he kept me from being so serious, it was like he helped to take the weight of the world off my shoulders.  I could see us working so well in a marriage.

I just wanted to post one last time (that is my goal) to say THANK YOU to this forum and website for helping me through the loss of my relationship.  Clicking on my user name will link to my old posts, but as a recap, I had been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years with a man who originally said he had ADHD, but then denied it when confronted.  I had no clue about ADHD, but I knew how unhappy I had become and how different our relationship was from the beginning stages.  So I started reading books on it and HOLY COW did it seem to describe him and us to a T!  The trouble was, he

I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 35. I have hurt my wife emotionally by doing something that really hurt her emotionally and after counseling and her giving me a second chance and things started getting better I did it again. More counseling and things getting better again and then I do it again. I hate that I hurt her but don't understand why I keep doing the same cycle over again and again. I know my communication skills suck and I am not that good at expressing how I feel.

He is the love of my life. He once made me feel like I was the only girl alive. But a little after a year of us being together I found out he love's porn.and I was open to it and still am.but after a while he started talking about some of my girlfriends and ones my sister and even some others we know. After a few times he seen I got out of the mood as soon as he brought it up. I let him know it really hurt my feelings and didn't like talking about people we know and I was really nice about it. But its been almost 2years and he still does it.

I've had a particularly difficult day today. ADHD BF is out of town for a work project. I woke up early to get a jump on my day and had NO INTERNET. Because BF didn't pay the bill and it is more than TWO months overdue. And because my entire business is online, I was screwed.

I had mentioned the overdue internet bill to BF several times in recent months and he repeatedly told me, "I'll take care of it" and "Don't worry." At one point in April, he told me that he had "Contacted them and worked out a plan."

Really? Seems like not so much.

I'm exhausted and at the end of my rope and I guess I just need some support. My husband has not been diagnosed with ADHD, but he shows a lot of the symptoms, along with anxiety and depression. I've asked him to see a doctor about it but he hasn't been willing to go.

My husband and I have been together for 13 years.  Married for 7.  We have two young children.  My husband has ADD and his drug and alcohol problems started when he was a teenager.  He was started on Adderall just before we got married.  He told me he stopped taking it when we started trying to get pregnant, but he never did.  He was abusing it.  He convinced his doctor that he needed higher and high doses.  He was buying extra from people.  I suspected that he had a drug problem for years but he would never admit to it and I could never prove it.  Three years of lies and sneaking around. 

I have been pondering this question someone posted to me on this site. I don't know the answer.  I know I am paralyzingly scared and that I have always been someone who accomodates people trying to play on a team.  But what do people do to garner enough fortitude to make the necessary changes and withstand the war of the roses that will affect our own children and grandchildren.  How do people know what to do?