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Hello everyone,

I have just been broken up by an ADHD girlfriend. This girl has an amazing soul and I love her a lot but her disorder has definitely taken its toll on the relationship. I will try to be brief
 

- for the first years of her life she was subject to very harsh treatment by her parents, unaware of ADHD, especially her father, since it was only diagnosed later

- she grew up with severe learning disabilities which were softened with medication (Concerta) and a lot of support at school

I am in a running battle with my ADHD husband about the back porch. He wants to enclose it as an office. He knows NOTHING about building construction, but yet INSISTS he can do this. I have put my foot down and said ABSOLUTELY NOT because of the permits, the building codes and knowing FULL WELL what it's going to look like when he gets "done" with it.

     There are already at least 2 dozen projects around the house that have yet to be completed, and they have been staring us in the face for years now. I CAN'T HANDLE ANOTHER UNDONE PROJECT....ESPECIALLY A GREAT BIG ONE.

Does anyone know about Dr. Leon Eisenberg (the father of ADHD) said on his deathbed that he "made up ADHD". He also said the condition was for the selling of pharmaceuticals and to make drug companies richer and not for the well being of children. Does anyone KNOW about this? Maybe you Melissa? What do you make of this?

I KNOW FOR A FACT, that my husband DOES have ADHD, due to the change in him from the medications, AND from the hereditary conditions his family members had. But, WHY would this Dr. who supposedly STARTED the diagnosis of ADHD, then say it was a ficticious disease?

I love my husband, I really do. He is a great guy and for the most part I love our life together. 

But I'm at a loss right now as to handle his career unemployment and the way he views himself with grace. 

I work from  home and make a very good living. He handles the household stuff. It works pretty well. 

Dh is EXTREMELY a perfectionist when it come to GARBAGE.  He pulls everything apart and categorizes the garbage.  He has pails and boxes lining all the walls in our garage with things he thinks he has to process by taking out every nut and bolt and saving them.   He told me I MUST wash out "with soap" all the empty jars and glasses and soak and peel the labels off of them before throwing them away.  He spends most of every Saturday "processing" the garbage. His side of the garage is like a hoarder's - filled to the brim and no room for his car.

My hyper husband has done it again. When my back was turned he performed the task of hanging pictures on brand new walls. We had discussed it and agreed to center the pics on the walls. He went in and hung the pics where HE felt like it. (very off center). Now when He goes to work I can rehang them and fill in the holes & paint over them.

After coming to the point of almost being totally mentally shot. I finally found this site started reading everything on it. Ordered the book and am reading it. Thank God! Today when my ADHD (hugely hyper & unpredictable) husband were shopping and I was talking to him about what we should get, turned around to realize I was talking to myself because he was nowhere to be seen, I could say to myself "it's the ADHD". Instead of feeling disrespected and angry. I chose what I WANTED and continued shopping. My anger has been all consuming, and today I didn't have to get mad.

My husband and I are currently separated, he's had an affair with another woman, and we have been unable to properly approach the ADD in our marriage. Currently he's living with his brother in another state while he sorts through his feeling for this other woman and whether or not he wants to try again at our relationship.

There seems to be a lack of real empathy from dh.  As though other people and animals are there for HIS enjoyment, comfort, biding.  There seems to be a lack of care of other's feelings and needs.  I think this is the hardest part of living with him.  It makes me, the partner/spouse, unseen and unheard. The crazy-making part is that he screams that I am not loving enough when it is HIM that does not seem to care AT ALL about how I feel or what I think.

My husband started a diet last year (May 2013). I cannot tell you the difference it has made in his roller coaster personality (ADHD). He has been more consistent with moods, doesn't get angry over every little thing and stays focused on conversation, and doesn't say wacky things that make no sense. He has always had a big appetite and he is now watching his calorie intake and has lost 90 pounds. I can not express enough what a huge difference this has made in him not only physically but mentally. Praise God!