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It sure appears to me that my ADHD spouse can be late - but cannot tolerate others being late.  

Can neglect returning phone calls for days or even weeks - but cannot tolerate others not returning his calls to them.  

Can forget to do something and it is excusable - but cannot tolerate others forgetting to do things.

Can snarl or bark in anger -   but feels attacked if someone snarls or barks at him.

Like many couples in this forum, my bf and I struggle with trust issues sometimes. I will try to give a little background first before I ask my main question.

Sorry for such a personal question, but wondering if any of the Non-ADHD spouses have found it helpful to take an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety meds? My husband of 12 years was finally diagnosed with ADHD at age 43 years old. Our marriage has always been a struggle and we have been in couples counseling on and off for 7 or 8 years. We have two young children (one under the age of 2), but  I believe my elementary aged daughter suffers from ADHD as well.

I recently found the book and started reading it.  It was like looking at my life.  I was afraid to make suggestions to my ADD husband based on what I was reading because he is so often like a rebellious teenager whenever I make suggestions to him.  I was so surprised when he replied, "I can tell you really love me.  You know me so well and are always trying to help me."  It was so sweet, it almost brought tears to my eyes.  

Hello everybody,

We've only been together 5 months but it feels like alot longer. And already most of the threads on this site are sickeningly familiar. I'm very tired, have had a couple of drinks, and don't really know how to word it all. I already feel like I'm being sucked out of myself. Shouldn't we still be in the honeymoon phase?

My husband (ADHD) finally let me go to his doctor appointment with him. I knew he had not told his doctor everything that was going on (forgetfulness, distraction, shutting himself off from the world, etc.) mainly because he didn't realize how it was affecting our marriage. Let me back up a bit: just before Christmas we had a huge fight and we both said things we hadn' t said before. Deep painful emotions came out and a separation was brought up. We decided to play nice to get through the holidays and talk some more after. So, we talked and really said what was in our hearts, good and bad.

My husband and I went through a very difficult time over the past 2 years, but especially the past year.  I diagnosed him myself with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).  I am a nurse, but not a mental health professional.  It just seemed to fit.  I couldn't figure out any other explanation.  However, some things really didn't fit.  I just thought maybe his case was mild.  My dad, however, has NPD, but his is severe, bordering psychosis.  Children of parents with NPD are usually drawn to others with NPD.  I thought that I had found myself in that situation.  It turns out I was wrong. 

My name is Summer (36) and my husband is Scott (31).  I have 2 daughters (13 & 10) from a previous marriage and we have a daughter (8) and son (5).  We live near Cincinnati, OH.  My husband has ADD.  I never really knew much about it when I met him.  He was taking Adderall when we met, but stopped soon after.  Everything seemed right in the world when we met.  He was hyperfocusing on me and feeling the euphoria of being in love.  I told him I thought he didn't need Adderall, but just liked the effect of it.   I thought he was just abusing it and encouraged him to quit taking it.  

I'm reading that many of you are being treated for depression and I was wondering how you knew when to get treatment for yourself?  I'm not only dealing with a difficult marital situation but I'm also going through hormonal changes (I'm 48 and have been having perimenopausal symptoms for 7 years) so I'm never really sure what is causing my depressed moods.  I have days where I don't know how I can go on but then I've never missed a day of work and can always manage to pick myself up and accomplish whatever has to get done.  Usually my worse days are after a busy work week and then I tend to