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Is the TV his new best friend/ lover?

I used to love watching TV and it was one of the things me and hubby have in common. We've been married 14 years. Early in our marriage. We used to live to watch TV together. But I've come to realize it seems to be the thing he's closest too. I used to suggest doing other things with our time. Like board games. He did play a couple of times with me  but he was miserable doing it. The last time I suggested it. I had set up a table with 2 cups of hot chocolate & whipped cream and set up a game of backgammon. It looked so inviting too.

No middle ground

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD several years into our marriage.  I often feel lonely, ignored and frustrated with his moodiness.  He is either extremely up (child-like, hyper, annoying) or extremely angry and crabby.  There seldom is a middle ground and I find it very difficult to deal with.  I consider myself a very even keel person so it is tough for us to relate at times.  Any advice on how to help him stabilize moods? He is on medication.

Support Groups for Non-ADHD Spouse

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Looking for a support group in Toronto, Ontario for non-ADHD spouses.  Does anyone know of one?  Would anyone be interested in starting one?  I think that many of us are in the same boat, where we feel very alone, with no one to talk to about this, because either people do not believe us, or they don't have the context of understanding Adult ADHD, and how it manifests itself so differently from the hyper children that I think most people imagine.  Oh how I would love to have someone to talk to who understands my experience of living and raising two children with an ADHD spouse.

"Say Something" lyrcis

I don't know if this song is in heavy rotation in all of your radio markets yet, but it is here and I feel it really expresses the anguish some of us are going through...not wanting to leave our ADHD partners, but feeling at the end of our rope.  And then silent or in denial...

I have not closed the door on my relationship, but it may have been closed for me.  2 weeks ago I left his house after a fight (he's pissed cuz he feels blamed for everything, I'm pissed cuz I feel neglected and feel he needs to get evaluated for ADHD...) and I have not heard from him since.

Pregnant and abandoned by ADHD husband

Hi everyone,

This is the first time I am seeking advise on a forum. I am 9 months pregnant and abandoned by ADHD husband four months ago. Basically he went to vacation to see his family abroad when I was 5 months pregnant and never returned. I had a bleeding episode while he was away and after contacting him he showed no emotional response or any concern, which I found extremely hurtful. In the heat of an argument I told him not to come back and he took the offer (very easily).

A little levity

It's been a hard few days for me, but I have a new favorite joke.  I hope it makes you smile as you face the challenges of today.

"I have OCD and ADD - everything MUST be in it's place, but only for a little while."  ;-)

Happy Wednesday!

My wife refuses to acknowledge ADHD's impact on marriage

We have been married for 14 years.  I came into the marriage with a history of depression.  There is no question that the holidays have been a trigger of sorts bringing me into low moods.  However, my wife comes from a family significantly affected by ADHD.  She has all of the hallmarks of it - hyperfocus, distractibility, forgetfulness etc... 

Our attribution breakthrough: ADHD as a symptom of CoDependence

I wanted to share this in case it's relevant and helpful for anyone else out there, and also because I'm so happy about it...

My relationship with my long-term ADHD-diagnosed partner has had the most remarkable breakthrough. 

It began when we read a book called "Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls" by Robert Burney. Then, individually, we did some telephone counselling with the author. There's also a website: www.joy2meu.com

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