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Me and my ADHD spouse have been married only a few months. He is currently taking medications for his ADHD and something to control his anger. We have had issues with ADHD before we got married and I had my doubts them too.  We fight all the time and though I wasn't the most mature, calm fighter in the beginning, I have improved. He is just plain rude. He tells me I'm lazy (I'm really not), he's called me names a husband shouldn't call his wife. Though he's never touched me, he tries to get me scared if him and I am when we fight. He blows up over the smallest things.

Hey so my boyfriend of 2 and a half years has Adhd. At first I didn't think it was a big deal and in all honesty I just thought it meant he just had a little more energy than most people. However, now certain things about his adhd really get to me and I don't know how to feel about them.  For example, he seems to have no filter.  He says whatever is on his mind and sometimes things he says can be hurtful. He's not a hurtful person but he just tells me things that most bf's wouldn't tell gf's.

I'd love some input from those with ADHD and those who have long-term experience living with someone with ADHD. 

Is it a "common" coping mechanism or reaction to being overwhelmed to give up on something you really, truly want and go back to or stay in a situation that makes you unhappy because it's familiar and easier to handle?  In the bad situation there really isn't a risk of failure because it's already a mess, but in the new situation there is a big risk of failure.

My boyfriend and I live together we are in a mature relationship but my ADD is causing a strain. I know my boyfriend cares about me because he has been theone supporting me He was the person who convinced me to get myself checked for ADD. I have been having a reallhard time remembering things that are important to the relationship and trouble focusing. He has been having very little patience with me recently and is wanting to call me stupid and say it's not just the ADD. I feel so hopeless and pathetic because he's told me he loves me but can't see this working.

So i may have contracted an STD from my spouse,.If my name was not anonymous i probably would not have been able to say this...Thought it was nothing until i took antibiotics got cured,slept with him again and got it back...Took blood test for certainty results pending till Friday..Now,what do i really do from here..Family upset,mother would not talk to me,my uncle is worried...everyone around me is soo bloody upset.I confronted him yesterday about after spending the weekend by him, i got back sick.He said that i skip the antibiotics did not follow rules and that is why i got back sick..Not

"A connected child feels involved in a world larger than himself. He feels — and feels is the crucial verb — held in place by loving arms. This feeling of connection goes deeper than beliefs or knowledge. Connection is an inoculation against despair, a vitamin that propels positive growth. I call it the other vitamin C, “vitamin connect.” Of course, the key to the development of any child is love, which begets the feeling of connectedness."   This is from Additude magazine site.

I wanted to share a bit of my story and where I'm at for those of you who are where I have been and was just a short time ago.

Hi,

I have been visiting this forum for about a year and after reading.listening to the book realized I should have posted a long time ago as people seem to have the same experiences. If you've been where I am, I'd  really appreciate your advice on what I can do t avoid walking away from my Marriage.

I've been posting on this forum on and off lately, trying to figure out whether my husband might have ADHD. I have a strong suspicion that he does, but it feels like such a battle to get him to admit he might need help that I'm starting to feel like just giving up. We've been married for a little over 2 years, and it's been just about the hardest period of my life. I think often about divorcing and getting my old life back -- conflict-free, financially secure, perhaps a bit lonely but more or less devoid of daily stress.

Just my 2 cents.... I've been only recently diagnosed ADHD. And my partner is frustrated as hell with the ensuing depression, disorganization, and lack of interest in EVERYTHING that I seem to feel these days. So on top of my pain I very acutely feel HIS pain as well. I've been reading several posts on the topic, by the ADHD and their partners and YES! It is a super frustrating condition for anyone it touches. That being said..... Before we get hung up on Labels....