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History married 7.5 years with 2 kids 4 and 6.  I have 3 older kids from my first marriage that my spouse gets along very very well with.  My husband was not diagnosed with ADHD until 2 years or so ago even though everyone knew he had it.  I was thought to have anxiety my whole life but found it was another form of ADHD.  I am a type A over achiever my husband is an masters educated fumbling mess.  He was laid off from his job as a mathematics professor in January 2011 and has not worked since.

For some people, a spouse filing for separation or divorce is the thing that makes them realize the seriousness of the situation and finally accept that if they want to stay married, they must do something about their behavior.  My husband appears to be an exception.  His fear of talking about and dealing with issues is too strong for even death of the marriage to sway him.  I'm not looking for answers here; just sharing.

I haven't posted in several months. I was pretty much into the habit of using this community as a resource for mindfulness, but when my wife found this forum and read all that I had posted it was a problem. Like so many times when you are actually on track doing something productive, an unexpected snag, complication, unpleasantness, or delay makes for a very compelling excuse to jump the tracks and shift to something else.

I'm posting here in the hope that there are others out there with a similar experience.

I've been married for 14 years, and am a parent of a 10 year old girl who got diagnosed with ADHD when she was about 5. Ever since, the relationship with my wife has gone gradually down hill, and now I'm at the point that I'm going to move out for a while. This has not been an easy decision, but I'm really at my wits end, and don't see any other alternatives.

Hi,  my name is Debi and I am new here.  I have been on the ADDforum for since July and just found this site this morning.

    I would like to say THANK YOU! to Melissa Orlov and Dr. Howell.   I recently was dx with ADD in August and while looking for information around the internet I found Ms. Orlov's book.  It was wonderful, I read it and now my husband is reading it.

I am new to the forum. My boyfriend has ADHD. He has been diagnosed and I have known this since the beginning of our relationship. 

We moved in together shortly after having a one-year long distance relationship. I knew he had the tendency of going off in tangents when speaking, but I dealt with this easily because the majority of our initial relationship was over telephone communication.

My boyfriend and I dated 19 years ago for a year.  We reconnected in late 2011 and discovered we still feel the same way about each other.  We had a tumultuous 2012 due to his entanglements with his ex-wife (divorced 8 years). After a 9 month separation (he's east coast, I'm west), he called, and we've had the most amazing last 2 months.  Long talks about everything we've been through.  He calls me the love of his life, his best friend, the woman of his dreams, etc.  He told his friends, neighbors, and co-workers I'm his girlfriend.  He had me talk to some of them on the phone.

Hi Guys,

I have been reading this website on and off for 3 years now. I have read Melissa's and Ned's books and own many more related to understanding ADHD and own every self help relationship book under the sun. I am 35 and have been with my bf (who has ADD) who is 34 for 3 1/2 years now. He was diagnosed as a child and has been on meds for years on and off. He gets his adderal from his family physician.

It seems I've been member for 49 weeks, which the computer told me when I tried to create a new account.

Sounds like standard operating procedure for me.  I can't afford fancy 'seminars and all' but hopefully can gain some kind of discussion from this that might help. My husband (who is not the adhd one, at least accordign to him, anyway....) asserts adhd is not real and it is an excuse for Lazy, I could remember things and pick them up if I wanted to, I would not interrupt him if I cared what he was saying, etc.

I currently am going insane and I can't control it.  I have the weight of the world on my shoulders and no help from boyfriend instead he is sitting on the world.

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