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The RV.

I want to share it when not in use.

The spouse does not want to share it.  Ever.  He stated, "If I can't enjoy it, nobody is going to enjoy it."

I think that is selfish and unkind.

I lent it to my niece.  All she knows of the disagreement is her uncle 'doesn't like anyone else to drive it'  so her cousin is parking it at the camp ground for her to use. 

Have I just put my niece in the middle?  Am I using her?  Should I tell her and let her make her own decision?

Ack.  I hate this.  Why do I even have ask this?  Why don;t I just know?

Hi my 31 year old boyfriend was diagnosed with adhd last week after strugglin immensley his whole life. He has just been prescribed concerts and is wondering what other people views are. Positive and negative.

Hi i am 26 and my partner was last week diagnosed with adhd after struggling with it his whole life. His relationship with his mother has also broken down. I am so relieved to be on the way for him to be getting help but i think i need help myself. I know he cant help leaving the lid off the milk, being extremely messy, stressed,angry and all the other adhd traits which drive me around the bend.

This was going to be a "My Story" post, but my story is really just beginning. 

My wife and I have an 11 year old daughter and 8 year old son.  We had been married 4 years before having kids, and there didn't seem to be any significant issues during this time.  After having kids, I believe things really changed.

I am glad to have found this website. However, I do wonder if after 6 years things are too late for us. I am a new member, but in reading previous posts I am absolutely amazed by how similar the stories (pieces here and there) are to my own. One key difference though is that my husband is a non-American and for so long I thought was I was dealing with a cultural phenomenon. Although all his older brothers are government officials, responsible, and goal-oriented.

Have you every noticed that your ADHD spouse will only laugh in social situations if they are the joke teller?  My DH actually glares at others when a joke is told and the group laughs.

And his jokes never make sense in the situation and just unsettle everyone.  He can't tell the difference between real laughter and fake uncomfortable laughter.  

This only happens around groups that are not in the core circle.  With family he is fine, people we have known for years he is fine, but new groups he just tries to upset everyone.

I have named this forum as the first step because I have finally admitted to myself that I have a serious problem and I will be seeking advice to see if ADHD is the cause.

I was watching the movie 'Jerry McGuire' this evening.  A romance scene comes on the screen, my spouse slams down the footrest of the recliner, jumps out of the chair, and grumbles, "I'm going to bed."  

A few minutes later I hear the upstairs shower.

Uh Oh.  It dawned on me that I had taken down the shower curtain this afternoon and washed it, then forgot to put it in back up.

I ran upstairs and said through the closed bathroom door, "Hey, sorry, I forgot to get the shower curtain out of the wash machine."

I am not quite sure, but I am wondering if my non ADHD husband has become slowly but surely more and more emotionally & psychologically abusive with me over the years.