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found this site after another evening of sobbing on the couch. Been married 4 years, have 2 small kids. Always knew DH had a problem with organization, but never realized the extent of his dysfunction.

My wife has ADHD, PMDD and other disorders.  I don't need to reiterate the common problematic issues of relationships here since that's all over the forum.  However, she's heading towards perimenopause and I am... uh... scared.  She has her mood swings under control with medication at the moment and some emotional management tools, therapy.  We have rules to protect me also because she used to be emotionally abusive with me though, and still has impulsivity issues etc.  The other ADHD issues are things she is working on.

DH has business debts and very little retirement money saved.  We passed retirement age but both have our own small dwindling businesses.  We just had a personal visit to our home this morning by someone who he owes rent and utilities for his workshop.  This was a debt where I had specifically asked, "Do you owe them money?"  He said he was paid up.  A lie again.  After the person left, I waited to hear his response.  No words at all.  He was waiting for me to talk while he hung his head in silence.

I'm new here, but I'm very glad I found this site.  My partner of 6 years has been diagnosed with ADHD and OCD.  This was long before we met, and he's under a doctor's care and taking medication.  

We have a HUGE issue like a wall between us since we met -- he is only sexually attracted to women who look a certain way.  To get his "fix", he looks at porn pretty much every day, one woman after another after another, often for an hour or more.  It doesn't matter if I'm home in the next room or I'm out of the house.  He says it makes him "happy."

I know you are all going to jump on me for only giving it a year but I entered this relationship hoping it would be a long and meaningful journey....

On our first date she was late (even though she only lived two blocks away and I travelled over 50 kms) and she didn't even mention it or apologise, an introduction of worse things to come.

Hi all,

Hi, all. I've been to this website and forum on and off for the past year.  As I write this post, I have such a deep well of pain in the center of my heart that I feel it is going to swallow me whole. I have been married to my ADHD husband for six years (this month is our anniversary), and only put together that he had adult ADHD about a year ago. He was previously divorced but it seemed that the reason of his previous divorce were not related to ADHD but to a difference in life goals and compatibility. I remember before I married him, I had some fears, but don't we all?

My husband now has two speeding tickets within 12 months.  One more would lead to suspension of his driver's license.  Me driving him is not an option; he commutes 280 miles (round trip) to and from his job as a caregiver for his parents once a week.  Do I do anything?

I'm new to this forum and have posted a couple of times.  My partner has ADHD (as well as other disorders). We've only been together 3.5 years. 

I am confused and, as a result, very frustrated about a long-term issue in my relationship.  I am sure this is an issue for other people who are in relationships with individuals with ADHD and so I hope that readers (and bloggers:  Melissa, help please!) will offer their thoughts.

(A) Here are some facts about relationships generally.

1) Relationship problems often arise from the behavior/response/response cycle.

2) This means that both the person who engages in the original behavior and the person who responds contribute to whatever is happening.