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Ok I am new to this but here it goes. My husband and I have been together for 20yrs. He is the love of my life. We have been through a thing or two. Ten years ago my mother was hit by a car in NM and killed instantly, we then took over the financial care of my grandmothers care who had Alzheimer. She past away about two years ago. Then about four years ago we started taking care of my aunt who also has Alzheimer. Now I was diagnosed with ADD when I was about nine. I have always had problems in school, ect ect. If things interest me I am the queen... I excel if not - well not at all.

I'm getting ready to turn 35. All my life, I've had classic symtoms of ADD and no one ever encouraged me to deal with it. I've been in emergency services since I graduated high school and have been a police officer for 11 years and still enjoy going to work everyday. It's the only job that every held my interest enough to make a career out of as I had over a dozen jobs before I doing this. I got married when I was 30 and my wife was 21. We've been married for 4 1/2 years.

How are the relationships between ADD parents and their ADD children ?    My son has become increasingly disrespectful toward his ADD father.  Sometimes I think he is a min-version of his irritable Dad.  I worry he is going to be just like his father when he grows up, but he used to be such a happy child.  He is still respectful toward me...sure we have our moments as any parent/teen would but I wonder how much of his behavior toward his dad is hereditary and how much is learned...   His Dad rarely does things with our children, just today my children and I were about to play a board game a

Why is it that every minor conflict has to go from 0 to 60 in a matter of seconds? 

I've been dating an ADHD guy for about 3 years an I truly don't know how to improve it anymore. When I first met him, He's just like everyone's dream guy. He says the nicest things and is always very attentive. A month later, we started dating. All was good and nothing could possibly go wrong within a year's period. During the 2nd year, we started suffering some problems. He says he'll promise to call but he'll never call and start giving excuses. I'd let it go the 1st time but it went on and on and I got fed up.

My ADD husband is addicted to his laptop.  He spends hours a day on it arguing w/ people about politics, playing games, etc.  He rarely puts it aside in the evenings.  I might as well be on another planet.  I get so tired of being ignored for hours on end.  I have mentioned it before but it goes in one ear and out the other.  Does anyone else deal with this?

It's been brought up before as to whether or not ADHD in a relationship should be considered as and treated the same as any other kind of disability.  Many have questioned whether it would be a moral failure to leave someone with ADHD since they wouldn't likely leave a spouse who became paralyzed or was stricken with a disease.  To me the answer is very tricky.  Firstly, no one is suddenly stricken with ADHD as an adult.  It is something the person will have been struggling with their whole life whether they were/are aware of it or not.  Also, people with ADHD often develop coping mechanism

This is my first time posting. I'm really nervous to put anything out there because sometimes the things I think (after I type them) just seem silly, but I need some advice on ways to let go of being angry, upset, frustrated, etc.

I realized this past week after spending Christmas apart from my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years that there are certain things  I'm just not going to be able to do the same way anymore.  They weren't getting me anywhere anyhow.  I realized  first and foremost that because I was so tired of being upset all the time I'd started rationalizing all the upsetting things he was doing just so I wouldn't feel the need to get upset, example:  He often arbitrarily takes my car places instead of his without asking, leaving me with no transportation because I can't drive his car (stick shift) among my

I am not married, but in a serious relationship with an ADHD partner.  I can see myself married to him someday if the relationship gets there.   I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this forum.  I read Dr. Hallowell's "Delivered From Distraction" and it gave me so very much.   All of my instincts were so validated.  Everyone should read it if you have not.  What you may be thinking is red flag behavior is not with ADHD.   I want to share all that I embrace about him AND his ADHD.  I think it makes things better, not worse.  I never ever want him to "change".